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Posted by Tanzanite on March 3, 2006, at 13:25:52
Ok, this is a vent. I am not sure how to even go about describing this. We have to eventually file bankruptcy. We bought a used car when the car we are paying outrageous payments are broke down. Well, guess what!! The used car's transmission needs to be replaced. So, hopefully it will not cost as much to fix the other car that we still have to make payments on. I am beside myself with stress. I just want to crawl in a hole and die. I feel guilty that we even got this other car. The little money we have left was supposed to go to a lawyer. Now we are stuck with a car that is of little worth and another one we will have to stick with the awful payments on. But, we need to have transportation. We are not eligible for any help. My husband works, and I am on disability (for combination of physical and mental health problems). I don't know what to do. I cry sometimes, freak out at others and I am trying my best to deal with this. Thing is, we have no one reliable here to turn to. My family and friends are all in another state. My inlaws are not reliable for many reasons and I will not go into details here, other than they have their own issues. So, I needed to vent. The best I can do is hope and pray that once we get this car we are paying on to a mechanics shop that it will be able to be fixed for a reasonable amount. (screaming internally). Sorry for the long rant, but sometimes I feel like we just have this black cloud that follows us, no matter how much optimism I have been trying to keep.
Peace
Tanzanite
Posted by Deneb on March 3, 2006, at 16:47:20
In reply to Depression, car/financial woes, no support sys., posted by Tanzanite on March 3, 2006, at 13:25:52
(((((((((((Tanzanite))))))))))))
It sure sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now. Must be very stressful.
My Mom says that there are two places where one always leaves with outrageous bills...the dentists and the car mechanics.
I hope it doesn't take much to fix your car. I've got my fingers crossed for you.
Deneb
Posted by Tanzanite on March 3, 2006, at 18:29:29
In reply to Re: Depression, car/financial woes, no support sys. » Tanzanite, posted by Deneb on March 3, 2006, at 16:47:20
Thank you Deneb :) Yeah the dentist that is another place I have to go once and if we get dental coming up in April. Not looking forward to that lol. Hope you are doing well. Peace
Tanzanite
Posted by Dinah on March 3, 2006, at 19:43:30
In reply to Depression, car/financial woes, no support sys., posted by Tanzanite on March 3, 2006, at 13:25:52
It's hard to go through all that in a place where you don't have a reliable support system. Is there anything possible to do to increase your support system?
Posted by TexasChic on March 3, 2006, at 21:39:16
In reply to Depression, car/financial woes, no support sys., posted by Tanzanite on March 3, 2006, at 13:25:52
A couple of years ago I had just ventured out on my own for the first time, I was in my apartment a couple of months, just gotten a new kitten, and got fired. Plus I'm pretty sure my ex-boss was black-balling me, which means I had ALOT of trouble getting a job, AND I couldn't get unemployment. Oh, and I had no friends to speak of (due to me standing up to a few), and using my family for support was a joke.
The only way I kept my sanity was to try to take a step back and look at things as unemotionally as I possibly could. I decided I was going to make a decision as to the steps I could take for any likely senerio, going as far as writing out an hourly schedule for the next day. And that's it! After racking my brain for hours and hours, I knew I'd come up with the best solutions for various outcomes that I possibly could. If something else occured to me I would try it, otherwise, I had to accept the fact that it was now out of my hands. Whatever was meant to happen would happen.
I could have thought of that time as a bad streak, and I have to admit I spent two solid days doing nothing but crying, but I tried really hard to find the positive and I found it. I'm in an incredibly better situation now. Getting fired from that job was one of the best things that ever happened to me.
Try to stay positive. I know its hard, I'm sending good Karma vibes your way.
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Posted by Tanzanite on March 3, 2006, at 22:42:09
In reply to Re: Depression, car/financial woes, no support sys » Tanzanite, posted by Dinah on March 3, 2006, at 19:43:30
Thank you. I have been racking my brain trying to decide the best way to develop a support system. I just started seeing a therapist. I really don't know anyone around here and my inlaws aren't an option. If we don't lose are transportation and can get our other car fixed then I am hoping to joing an open minded church or something to start getting out and meeting people. Any other ideas?
Peace and Hope you are doing well
Tanzanite
Posted by Tanzanite on March 3, 2006, at 22:44:55
In reply to Re: Depression, car/financial woes, no support sys, posted by TexasChic on March 3, 2006, at 21:39:16
Thank you for your story. It meant a lot to me, and does help a bit to put things into perspective. I am trying to be positive right now and am hoping that everything will work out for the best no matter what. Thanks for the good Karma :) I can use all I can get.
Blessings and Peace
Tanzanite
Posted by TexasChic on March 3, 2006, at 23:05:29
In reply to re:Dinah, posted by Tanzanite on March 3, 2006, at 22:42:09
Well I'm in the same boat trying to build a support system. The only thing I know to do is get out and try to meet people.
Church is usually the first thing recommended in meeting new like minded people. Volunteer work is also a good one. And there's a site called meetup.com. Its a place that people can look for others in their community with common interests and set up group meetings. I've gone to a couple, and it was really cool. I think they may charge a membership fee now to use the site, but I don't think its very much.
Going to a therapist is also a way of getting support. They may not be your personal friends or anything, but just having someone to talk to who can give you good advice can be a big relief.
-T
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