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Posted by Deneb on June 19, 2006, at 22:54:52
Someone told me that my writing about my Bob love and about Bob's hug brings up sexual abuse stuff, so I'm going to try really hard to not write so much about loving Bob.
I'm sorry if I've triggered some people.
I'm also going to try to start fewer threads and reply to people instead.
I have to work on caring about others more.
Deneb*
Posted by Michael83 on June 19, 2006, at 22:59:18
In reply to I'm going to try really hard to change, posted by Deneb on June 19, 2006, at 22:54:52
I like reading your threads.
...if it means anything, lol.
Posted by Phillipa on June 19, 2006, at 23:19:11
In reply to Re: I'm going to try really hard to change, posted by Michael83 on June 19, 2006, at 22:59:18
Me too and what do your posts about Bob have to do with sexual abuse. Nothing in my opinion. Love Phillipa
Posted by Tabitha on June 19, 2006, at 23:20:05
In reply to I'm going to try really hard to change, posted by Deneb on June 19, 2006, at 22:54:52
Sweetie, one thing I learned here when I used to post a lot more is this: you can't please everyone, not matter what you do, so you might as well just be yourself. Post what you want. Some will like it, some will be indifferent, and some may complain or criticize. If you get complaints, then you can practice self-acceptance in the face of disapproval, which is a great skill to have in life.
Posted by Dinah on June 19, 2006, at 23:21:27
In reply to I'm going to try really hard to change, posted by Deneb on June 19, 2006, at 22:54:52
I'll tell you what I tell my son. You can't please everybody all the time. No one can.
If you are happy with who you are, don't go changing to try to please others. It's a thankless and impossible task.
Or as my mother says (close your ears those who hate Edgar A. Guest)
"I have to live with myself and so
I must be fit for myself to know."That being said, people who I know don't like me still can make me cry sometimes.
Posted by Racer on June 20, 2006, at 17:31:09
In reply to Re: I'm going to try really hard to change » Deneb, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2006, at 23:21:27
First of all, Deneb, I'll tell you to listen to Dinah, who's pretty smart and gave some good advice there.
Then I'd tell you to listen to everyone else who's responded to this.
And finally, I'll tell you to listen to that voice inside you that you can only hear when everything around you is quiet: ask that little voice whether you're OK as you are? If the answer comes back, "Not quite..." then you ask that little voice what you need to work on? And whatever that little voice inside you, the one that's so quiet you can only hear it when everything around you is quiet, whatever that little voice says to work on, you should probably work on.
What I'm trying to say is that there's no point in trying to change for someone else. It doesn't work, for one thing, but mostly, Deneb, you have to be someone YOU like. If you would like yourself better without so many Bob posts, then by all means try to reduce the number. If you like yourself just fine when you post about your feelings about Bob, then there's no problem posting about it.
Disclaimer: I was sexually abused as a child. I am not triggered by your posts, and therefore feel qualified to say the above.
And whoever suggested that self-acceptance in the face of external criticism was a good lesson, gave you an excellent idea to ponder.
This is the end of the thread.
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