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Posted by Deneb on July 20, 2006, at 23:36:54
I feel guilty for starting yet another thread about myself and not replying to others more. I will try to reply to others more tomorrow.
I've just been feeling anxious these last couple of weeks. I'm anxious about my health. It's not just the lump thing I'm anxious about now. There are more. I know a normal person wouldn't get anxious about the new things I'm anxious about, but I'm still worrying.
I hate this. I don't want to live in fear. I don't want to worry anymore. Am I ever going to go back to normal again? This lump thing has triggered me to worry about my health. This happened once before, when Hammie died, I got over it for a while, but now it's back.
I want some help. What can I do to get rid of my anxiety?
Deneb*
Posted by Deneb on July 20, 2006, at 23:59:47
In reply to I'm anxious, posted by Deneb on July 20, 2006, at 23:36:54
Why can't we just all have one problem to deal with?
Why do some of us have to have depression AND anxiety?
Why do I have to have health anxiety on top of my BPD and my social anxiety?
I want to feel happy again.
Deneb*
Posted by Michael83 on July 21, 2006, at 0:26:42
In reply to I'm anxious, posted by Deneb on July 20, 2006, at 23:36:54
I live in fear too, sort of along the same lines.
I often wonder, why did I of all people have to be infected with these strange thoughts? Is it so much to ask to be a little more normal?
It comes and it goes, the best thing to do is wait.
Atleast you have something that will clear your fears, and that is an ultimate conclusion from a doctor as to what your lumps are.
I'll never learn the answer to my fears.
I know what BPD is, and I know saying something like this is hard to process for someone with that but worrying isn't going to help anything. It's not going to cure, change, or fix anything.
Worry when you actually are sick, not now when you're healthy. If you ever will be sick, which seems very unlikely.
I post on here to help get rid of my anxiety, and it helps.
Posted by ClearSkies on July 21, 2006, at 7:12:44
In reply to I'm anxious, posted by Deneb on July 20, 2006, at 23:36:54
Deneb, maybe you need to see your doctor more frequently right now? My appointment schedule varies according to how I'm doing. Sometimes I'm fine with seeing her once every 3 weeks, and other times it's best if I go in once a week.
Let your doctor help you with some strategies for dealing with anxiety.
ClearSkies
Posted by Phillipa on July 21, 2006, at 12:03:54
In reply to Re: I'm anxious » Deneb, posted by ClearSkies on July 21, 2006, at 7:12:44
Deneb I do the same thing. Love Phillipa
Posted by Kath on July 21, 2006, at 14:54:32
In reply to I'm anxious, posted by Deneb on July 20, 2006, at 23:36:54
Hi Deneb,
I want to share with you something that I fell, is helping me keep my sanity & making my life a LOT more peaceful.
I'm going to give you a website to check out. It's:
www.tatlife.com
I've posted on the Alternative Board about this method. I use it pretty-well daily. It helps me with Worry
Stress
Sadness
Upset feelings
Feeling crappy from dreams upon wakingETCETERA
Just in case you don't read the Alternative Board & might want to try this out.
It's a way of holding your hands to your head. You can do it while saying a series of sentences OR you can just hold them & fell however you're feeling. I find that after a minute I usually feel better. Sometimes I even forget what I was 'doing' the holding for!!!!!!!
Kath
> I feel guilty for starting yet another thread about myself and not replying to others more. I will try to reply to others more tomorrow.
>
> I've just been feeling anxious these last couple of weeks. I'm anxious about my health. It's not just the lump thing I'm anxious about now. There are more. I know a normal person wouldn't get anxious about the new things I'm anxious about, but I'm still worrying.
>
> I hate this. I don't want to live in fear. I don't want to worry anymore. Am I ever going to go back to normal again? This lump thing has triggered me to worry about my health. This happened once before, when Hammie died, I got over it for a while, but now it's back.
>
> I want some help. What can I do to get rid of my anxiety?
>
> Deneb*
Posted by TexasChic on July 21, 2006, at 19:13:48
In reply to I'm anxious, posted by Deneb on July 20, 2006, at 23:36:54
What's normal anyway? Larry Hoover passed along a mantra to me that I try to keep in mind when I'm feeling 'abnormal':
"My feelings are not subject to questioning, by anyone. Even me."
How you feel is how you feel. That's it.
-T
Posted by Kath on July 21, 2006, at 19:22:37
In reply to Re: I'm anxious » Deneb, posted by TexasChic on July 21, 2006, at 19:13:48
GREAT MANTRA
I like the 'even me' part. And it's so true - feelings are feelings!!!!!!! They're not good, they're not bad, they're simply feelings.
K
> What's normal anyway? Larry Hoover passed along a mantra to me that I try to keep in mind when I'm feeling 'abnormal':
>
> "My feelings are not subject to questioning, by anyone. Even me."
>
> How you feel is how you feel. That's it.
>
> -T
Posted by cloudydaze on July 21, 2006, at 22:02:43
In reply to I'm anxious, posted by Deneb on July 20, 2006, at 23:36:54
At least your fear is rational. However, you may be obsessing a bit. I know its hard - i deal with Bipolar, general anxiety AND social anxiety every day...
You can feel worried without letting it consume you. Rationalizing with yourself sometimes helps. Ask yourself why you feel this way - what exactly are you scared of? You're not really scared of the lump. Are you scared of death? Even IF you do have cancer, that is not an automatic death sentence. My grandma survived breast cancer, and she's an old woman! You are a healthy young adult (and chances are it's proably not cancer).
You've got to accept that you are worried, and stop driving the nail in further. Don't torture yourself over it.
> I feel guilty for starting yet another thread about myself and not replying to others more. I will try to reply to others more tomorrow.
>
> I've just been feeling anxious these last couple of weeks. I'm anxious about my health. It's not just the lump thing I'm anxious about now. There are more. I know a normal person wouldn't get anxious about the new things I'm anxious about, but I'm still worrying.
>
> I hate this. I don't want to live in fear. I don't want to worry anymore. Am I ever going to go back to normal again? This lump thing has triggered me to worry about my health. This happened once before, when Hammie died, I got over it for a while, but now it's back.
>
> I want some help. What can I do to get rid of my anxiety?
>
> Deneb*
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