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Posted by PhoenixGirl on July 22, 2006, at 2:06:26
I talked to someone at a suicide hotline who said she was sending over a social worker just to talk to me at my house. I went outside, and there was an ambulance and some cops out there. I got taken to the ER against my will and released after two hours. They could do nothing for me. Now I'll have a hefty ambulance and ER bill coming my way for nothing - and I have no insurance.
While in the ER, I saw my female neighbor in there covered in blood. When I got home from theh ER (after having to walk through a dangerous neighborhood alone), I saw my neighbor's boyfriend in handcuffs getting hauled away by the cops. (Both my neighbor and her boyfriend are drug users - he just moved in with her and has made vague threats toward me).
I left a message on my alcoholic landlord's voicemail asking her to please make the boyfriend move out.
Posted by james K on July 22, 2006, at 2:27:56
In reply to Just got hauled off to the ER, even more drama too, posted by PhoenixGirl on July 22, 2006, at 2:06:26
Dang, what a cruddy night for you. I've been feeling way down, and actually posted about it earlier today, and came back on the net to see that you've had a crisis.
Are you still around tonight on the net? I sincerely hope you can get some sleep and are okay?
I'll be on the computer for a little while longer. Post back if you're still on. Hang on. I can post about whatever you feel like.
James K
Posted by PhoenixGirl on July 22, 2006, at 2:30:59
In reply to Re: Just got hauled off to the ER, even more drama too » PhoenixGirl, posted by james K on July 22, 2006, at 2:27:56
Yes, I'm still on. I start work tomorrow at 1pm, so it's not too bad. It's 3:30 a.m. I am just so mad that that suicide hotline person. I will not call them again. At least if I do, I won't give them my address. Damn, I just needed to talk. I cannot afford the bill I'm going to get now. It has just added one more worry to my hellish life.
Posted by james K on July 22, 2006, at 2:38:45
In reply to Re: Just got hauled off to the ER, even more drama too, posted by PhoenixGirl on July 22, 2006, at 2:30:59
---Hey, they can't make you pay a bill. Especially when you didn't call them first. Screen your calls if you have to.
The only time I called a hot line (and I'm not sure this is the time or place to talk about it, but...) I guess they called police, but I was already out of the immediate danger, and I heard police walking in the yard while I was lying on Kitchen floor.
I've been self-injurious and suicidal in the past. I have the scars and hospitalizations. There is so much more to life than this.
If you are somewhat like me, you may have it out of your system for the moment. Be alert for the return. Talk here, like you were trying, but don't hesitate to call for "real" help anytime you need it. Annoyance or rejection is better than the possible atlternative.
james
> Yes, I'm still on. I start work tomorrow at 1pm, so it's not too bad. It's 3:30 a.m. I am just so mad that that suicide hotline person. I will not call them again. At least if I do, I won't give them my address. Damn, I just needed to talk. I cannot afford the bill I'm going to get now. It has just added one more worry to my hellish life.
Posted by corafree on July 22, 2006, at 3:39:13
In reply to Re: Just got hauled off to the ER, even more drama too, posted by PhoenixGirl on July 22, 2006, at 2:30:59
So sorry for your 'horror' tonight.
Watch out for 'particular' crisis lines.
I know there is one in my city that will send cops/rescue if you answer their questions in a particular manner, because one night I CALLED IT! I was only calling w/ ideation. I'll never call that crisis line again!!!
Anyway, I could tell something was going on, so quickly grabbed purse and got out of here.
There are other crisis lines that will not do this ... unless, of course, you state actual 'intent'. They will 'talk you down' from ideation.
Tomorrow, find other 'crisis lines' that will handle your calls differently. There are others.
Hope you're safe.
StillAwake, cf
Posted by Phillipa on July 22, 2006, at 12:05:46
In reply to Re: Just got hauled off to the ER, even more drama too » PhoenixGirl, posted by corafree on July 22, 2006, at 3:39:13
Pheonix girl sounds like you need to get out of this neighborhood too dangerous especially for a young female. Love Phillipa
Posted by TexasChic on July 22, 2006, at 12:59:19
In reply to Just got hauled off to the ER, even more drama too, posted by PhoenixGirl on July 22, 2006, at 2:06:26
Damn girl, I'm sorry it turned out so crappy. Why did you have to walk home at night?! That's ridiculous! The whole situation obviously wasn't handled very well.
But I guess the main thing is you're ALIVE, and for that I'm thankful. I was really scared for you last night. Please don't let this crappy experience keep you from reaching out for help in the future. Like corafree said, apparently there are hotlines that won't do that. I'm really sorry if I steered you wrong, I was really worried.
Hey, if you don't mind, let me know which hotline you called. I'd like to do a little research and maybe give them a piece of my mind.
I hope you're feeling somewhat better today. Please know there are people out here that care what happens to you.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on July 22, 2006, at 13:11:34
In reply to Re: Just got hauled off to the ER, even more drama too » PhoenixGirl, posted by TexasChic on July 22, 2006, at 12:59:19
I'm very upset this happened to you.
-T
Posted by PhoenixGirl on July 22, 2006, at 20:26:34
In reply to Re: Just got hauled off to the ER, even more drama too » PhoenixGirl, posted by TexasChic on July 22, 2006, at 12:59:19
Posted by cloudydaze on July 23, 2006, at 14:02:52
In reply to Re: Just got hauled off to the ER, even more drama too, posted by TexasChic on July 22, 2006, at 13:11:34
> I'm very upset this happened to you.
>
> -TI agree....it's bullsh*t
Why did they need to send an ambulence? couldn't they have just sent someone to check on you?
Once, my boyfriend sent a cop to my house to check on me because I was suicidal. At the time, he was still living 6 hours away, and couldn't be here himself. I was mad that he called at first, but then it was nice to know he cared.
It would be nice if you had someone to call or chat with online even if you ever feel that way again. Is there someone you can trust that you can call? If not, babble will always be here. You can always send me a message on babblemail if you need to talk. I check email daily, sometimes several times a day. :)
You're not alone.
Posted by PhoenixGirl on July 23, 2006, at 19:08:38
In reply to Re: Just got hauled off to the ER, even more drama too, posted by cloudydaze on July 23, 2006, at 14:02:52
I'll definitely get on babble more next time I get suicidal. I might call a hotline, but I will never give them my address or phone number again. They can't do anything if they don't know where you are.
One good thing is that the hospital has a sliding-scale type program for people who have no income or insurance. Maybe they'll write it all off. God, what a waste of time that trip was.
But to answer your question, no I don't have anyone I can call when I feel down. Ironically, have no close ones is the main reason I get suicidal.
Posted by Phillipa on July 23, 2006, at 19:27:07
In reply to Re: Just got hauled off to the ER, even more drama too, posted by PhoenixGirl on July 23, 2006, at 19:08:38
Can the hotline trace your telephone number and find out where you live? Love Phillipa
Posted by Kath on July 23, 2006, at 19:48:50
In reply to Just got hauled off to the ER, even more drama too, posted by PhoenixGirl on July 22, 2006, at 2:06:26
Sweetie - I am so very sorry that this happened to you.
((((((((((((((((((you)))))))))))))))))))))))
Seems extremely irresponsible of the person to send the police & ambulance instead of a worker, like you were told.
I hope you have someone who can give you a real life hug, hunny.
I'm keeping you in my thoughts.
luv, Kathryn
Posted by Kath on July 23, 2006, at 19:56:59
In reply to Re: Just got hauled off to the ER, even more drama too, posted by PhoenixGirl on July 23, 2006, at 19:08:38
I don't know what your situation is, but one way to get "in touch" with people & perhaps develop some acquaintances who might become closer than that, is to become involved in volunteer work.
In the past, when I've been alone or lonely (& I admit, it was years ago, but I sure still remember that feeling) I was able to push myself to be places where I might meet friends. At first it was very hard for me, because I was the new one & the other people knew each other, so I felt alone there also, BUT as yet other new people joined, I wasn't the NEW one any more & I could reach out to welcome them.
It can be a way to get to know people.
If you're feeling really bad, it might be just too much to even think of doing volunteer work.
If you are, however, here are some types of places:
old age homeshospital
some schools, although they might think it weird that a not-parent would volunteer!
library
museum
womens' centre (a really good one, if they might happen to need help)
food bank
I hope the hospital does write off your debt.
luv, Kath
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