![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 5 of 5. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by Joan797 on October 4, 2006, at 7:10:47
I don't want this on the Relationship Board.
I am constantly and forever will be struggling with my weight. I have overweight children. My oldest Daughter, soon to be 17 is very overweight. I love her to pieces and she is a beautiful young woman. I don't harp on her abour her weight, and yet try not to have fattening foods in the house. I keep thinking she will make the descision on her own. She has tried to diet in the past and I have encouraged her, in fact, even bribed her with money and clothes.........if you lose this amount I'll give you this.....she never loses over 10 pounds and soon gives up on the diet. She has lots of stretch marks, wears sloppy clothes or ones that are too tight. Shopping is always a bad experience because she tries on clothes that don't fit, gets depressed and ends up buying something that looks horrible on he. She has terrible posture because she seems to be trying to hide her body when she walks. She has developed many sluggish habbits like hours on the computer, phone and watching tv. I used to encourage (sometimes force) her to be active in school sports. She eventually quit them all. She quit dance when her tummy bulge showed in the outfit. She quit backetball when she developed knee pain due to her weight. She quit cheerleading when she was treated like a leper for being larger than the other girls and didn't letter at the end of the year. All of these things, I allowed her to quit rather than throwing a fit because I too know what it is like to be heavy in a thin society. She attends a VERY small school. She is accepted and loved by everyone. She has tons of friends and always has someone to go do something with and many friends come here to our house.
I told you all of that, to tell you this.
My daughter is and always has been crazy about boys. She has had crushes on many, and many were not the cream of the crop. I'm not one of those mothers who think noone is good enough, it's just that I am so worried that they are just playing her and have no intention of seeing her for who she really is....a beautiful bright vibrant girl. Many are friends with her and she wants more. Those that do show her attention, end up hurting her because they only want to try to have sex with her........I worry about her self esteem problem and if that will cause her to eventually say yes to sex just for the attention. I don't know how to help her and I am worried about her. Any advise???
Posted by Phillipa on October 4, 2006, at 11:09:13
In reply to My Daughter and her Love Interests, posted by Joan797 on October 4, 2006, at 7:10:47
How bout putting this on self-esteem too? Love Phillipa
Posted by Joan797 on October 4, 2006, at 11:25:07
In reply to Re: My Daughter and her Love Interests » Joan797, posted by Phillipa on October 4, 2006, at 11:09:13
Posted by Declan on October 4, 2006, at 16:24:35
In reply to My Daughter and her Love Interests, posted by Joan797 on October 4, 2006, at 7:10:47
Kids (my daughter!) eat much too much carbohydrate and not enough protein. They try to control their weight with low fat things which doesn't help.
I suppose I'm lucky with our daughter (in some ways). She's had a bf, sex and all, for a year and at least is now over 16. He *seems* like a nice enough kid. The only problem is her schoolwork. I know for sure that there is almost nothing I could have done to help prevent bad stuff. I'm curious as to whether you live in a small town kind of place or a city. Now I can understand why you were 'speechless'(I think) about my post about our hometown and the boys here. It is one of the highlights of my life with my daughter when she said with a shrug of the local alpha males 'yeah, they just get girlfriends in for the winter' (and that they piss them off when summer comes). When she said that a frission of admiration went around the table and we all of us looked at her in a new way. (She does Hapkido, some sort of martial art, and I think the current bf was an instructor there.)
If I were in your position I wouldn't be of much use and am not in my position either. It's hard to be a parent when you can't help. I'd be worried if I were you, too.
Declan
Posted by Declan on October 4, 2006, at 16:28:49
In reply to Re: My Daughter and her Love Interests » Joan797, posted by Declan on October 4, 2006, at 16:24:35
Maybe that was Susan? Anyway, I'll try not to worry.
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Social | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.