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Posted by jammerlich on November 21, 2006, at 23:04:25
I feel overwhelmed with sadness tonight. Nothing feels right and I'm lonely. The sort of lonely a room full of friends couldn't fix.
I'm spending the holiday with my (soon to be ex) husband's family. They don't know anything....that we're getting divorced or that he's gay. What a farce this is going to be. It hadn't felt like such a big deal, until about an hour ago. Now, I have no idea how I'm going to make it through.
I love his grandparents like I do my own and I know this is probably the last time I will ever see them. Even once they know we're getting divorced, he's not going to tell them why. So, they won't know we're trying to stay friends and it wouldn't be appropriate for me to see them. I'll have to say goodbye, somehow, without actually having an opportunity to verbalize it.
It feels like such a traumatic loss. And I feel so very alone with it.
Posted by Gee on November 22, 2006, at 7:02:22
In reply to So sad, posted by jammerlich on November 21, 2006, at 23:04:25
Hey Jammer, I'm sorry you're having such a tough time of it right now. Do you have to go? It will be very hard. Good luck
Posted by Phillipa on November 22, 2006, at 11:54:36
In reply to Re: So sad, posted by Gee on November 22, 2006, at 7:02:22
Do you have to say good-bye why not just something like see you in a while and leave the telling to you soon to be ex ? Love Phillipa sorry you're so sad.
Posted by jammerlich on November 22, 2006, at 13:05:46
In reply to Re: So sad, posted by Phillipa on November 22, 2006, at 11:54:36
Thanks for your support, Phillipa.
It's not that I'll actually be telling them, or anything. It's just that, when we leave, I'll be driving off, knowing I'll never see them again; but, without a proper goodbye. Does that make any sense. I guess another way of saying it is that there will not be closure...or something.
Posted by jammerlich on November 22, 2006, at 13:07:05
In reply to Re: So sad, posted by Gee on November 22, 2006, at 7:02:22
No, I don't have to go. I actually want to go, as hard as it all is. I want to see them one last time.
Posted by Phillipa on November 22, 2006, at 19:46:14
In reply to Re: So sad » Phillipa, posted by jammerlich on November 22, 2006, at 13:05:46
I don't know as this might make them very sad. Maybe wait a few weeks and talk to them on the phone? Why spoil the holidays for them too? But only you know what is best. Love Phillipa
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