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Posted by Jay on November 30, 2006, at 20:34:16
I've had a few ups and downs with my Dad's health over the past few years. Fortunately, they have gone by the wayside, usually with misdiagnosis or some type of confusion. I thank all for your understanding....honestly.
But, this afternoon my pa came home from the heart specialist. Bad. I don't know the exact terminology, but it had something to do with faulty valves and some arteries being heavily clogged. He said something about a "shunt", and that they where most likely to do that instead of a bypass. There is one other major danger too. My Dad is diabetic, and in the operating room they will have to use a radioactive dye, which could mess up his damaged kidneys. If he wasn't diabetic, it wouldn't be a problem. But there is a big risk there.
I've told you guys how much I love my Dad, and I greatly appreciate your warm words of comfort. It hurts...my god it hurts like nothing else in my life. My Dad's brother just recently died of a simple heart problem, and I see the trembling fear in my Dad's eyes. So I hug him....I do it as much as I can, and tell him how much I love him. Damnit...I am really moving along in my life now, and looks like I will have an amazing career ahead. I want *him* to be a part of it..because he is much of the reason I got my life back together.
A quote: What love we've given, we'll have forever. What love we fail to give, will be lost for all eternity.
~Leo Buscaglia(huggy Leo...he is one of my mentors :)Leo also has a book called "Papa, My Father"...a tribute to the "GOOD" fathers of the world. The gentle ones...filled with love...giving love...hope..looking after and loving their families. (I know it's not ALWAYS that easy..but..I refuse to accept most excuses.) I am VERY lucky to have grown up in a house free of most or any bad things, really..like abuse of all it's kind...or anger...etc. I'll end up working with a lot of the kids of these f*#ked up families in a few months, and I know I can do it *well* because of the shape of person my parents made me. I think I was the happiest kid in the whole damn world! And I was sooooo proud to have loving, beautiful parents who's arms I could go running into when the "big bad world" tried to harm me. There is a line from a song that is apt here...."Sadder still to watch it die, then never to have known it." Well...enough crying for tonight...I've yapped on too much again. Thanks for listening.
Jay
Posted by Deneb on November 30, 2006, at 20:53:45
In reply to This time...ya it's for real..., posted by Jay on November 30, 2006, at 20:34:16
Sorry about the bad news Jay. It must be very scary, but you're doing all the right things, by being there for your dad. You're a good son. I hope he will be ok.
Deneb*
Posted by notfred on November 30, 2006, at 21:22:59
In reply to This time...ya it's for real..., posted by Jay on November 30, 2006, at 20:34:16
>
> But, this afternoon my pa came home from the heart > specialist. Bad. I don't know the exact
> terminology, but it had something to do with
> faulty valves and some arteries being heavily
> clogged. He said something about a "shunt", and
> that they where most likely to do that instead of > a bypass.He will recover much quicker from a shunt, bypass is
MAJOR surgery.
Posted by Declan on November 30, 2006, at 21:32:55
In reply to This time...ya it's for real..., posted by Jay on November 30, 2006, at 20:34:16
"Sadder still to watch it die, then never to have known it."
Sadder, but not better.
"Tis better to have known and loved than never to have loved at all."
Posted by Dinah on December 1, 2006, at 7:47:20
In reply to This time...ya it's for real..., posted by Jay on November 30, 2006, at 20:34:16
Posted by Poet on December 1, 2006, at 10:20:00
In reply to This time...ya it's for real..., posted by Jay on November 30, 2006, at 20:34:16
Hi Jay,
I'm so sorry to hear about your father.
You wrote: I know I can do it *well* because of the shape of person my parents made me. I think I was the happiest kid in the whole damn world! And I was sooooo proud to have loving, beautiful parents who's arms I could go running into when the "big bad world" tried to harm me.
Those are the memories to hold in your mind and heart, try hard to keep them close to you.
Poet
Posted by Phillipa on December 1, 2006, at 10:45:00
In reply to Re: This time...ya it's for real... » Jay, posted by Poet on December 1, 2006, at 10:20:00
Jay I'm so sorry about your Dad but try and think positively there are so many new things in Cardiac. Love Phillipa
Posted by Crazy Horse on December 1, 2006, at 10:49:17
In reply to This time...ya it's for real..., posted by Jay on November 30, 2006, at 20:34:16
> I've had a few ups and downs with my Dad's health over the past few years. Fortunately, they have gone by the wayside, usually with misdiagnosis or some type of confusion. I thank all for your understanding....honestly.
>
> But, this afternoon my pa came home from the heart specialist. Bad. I don't know the exact terminology, but it had something to do with faulty valves and some arteries being heavily clogged. He said something about a "shunt", and that they where most likely to do that instead of a bypass. There is one other major danger too. My Dad is diabetic, and in the operating room they will have to use a radioactive dye, which could mess up his damaged kidneys. If he wasn't diabetic, it wouldn't be a problem. But there is a big risk there.
>
> I've told you guys how much I love my Dad, and I greatly appreciate your warm words of comfort. It hurts...my god it hurts like nothing else in my life. My Dad's brother just recently died of a simple heart problem, and I see the trembling fear in my Dad's eyes. So I hug him....I do it as much as I can, and tell him how much I love him. Damnit...I am really moving along in my life now, and looks like I will have an amazing career ahead. I want *him* to be a part of it..because he is much of the reason I got my life back together.
>
> A quote: What love we've given, we'll have forever. What love we fail to give, will be lost for all eternity.
> ~Leo Buscaglia(huggy Leo...he is one of my mentors :)
>
> Leo also has a book called "Papa, My Father"...a tribute to the "GOOD" fathers of the world. The gentle ones...filled with love...giving love...hope..looking after and loving their families. (I know it's not ALWAYS that easy..but..I refuse to accept most excuses.) I am VERY lucky to have grown up in a house free of most or any bad things, really..like abuse of all it's kind...or anger...etc. I'll end up working with a lot of the kids of these f*#ked up families in a few months, and I know I can do it *well* because of the shape of person my parents made me. I think I was the happiest kid in the whole damn world! And I was sooooo proud to have loving, beautiful parents who's arms I could go running into when the "big bad world" tried to harm me. There is a line from a song that is apt here...."Sadder still to watch it die, then never to have known it." Well...enough crying for tonight...I've yapped on too much again. Thanks for listening.
>
> JaySo sorry about your Dad Jay. I went through a similar situation with my Dad in 1992..I adored my Him! He died of brain cancer and i still miss him every day, and even more during the holidays. I can only hope/try to be as good of a Father to my 2 little boys..i had the best example.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your Dad.
-MJ
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