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Posted by TexasChic on December 5, 2006, at 19:54:37
I don't even want to say why. Something stupid. I just need some reasurance that I'm not a total loser who will never have a normal relationship with anyone ever. I feel like a freak of nature who will never get it completely together. Sure things are alot better than they were, but its still so far from normal.
-T
Posted by zenhussy on December 5, 2006, at 20:00:28
In reply to Upset, need hugs, posted by TexasChic on December 5, 2006, at 19:54:37
two truths to be let in on:
1). nobody ever completely gets "it" together
and
2). normal is a setting on a washing machine or a dishwasheryou're going to be okay TC. you're no freak or loser. save that energy you're using to berate youreslf to be kind to youreslf instead.
k? ((((TC)))
--zh
Posted by Deneb on December 5, 2006, at 20:01:41
In reply to Upset, need hugs, posted by TexasChic on December 5, 2006, at 19:54:37
Posted by dreamboat_annie on December 5, 2006, at 20:06:34
In reply to Upset, need hugs, posted by TexasChic on December 5, 2006, at 19:54:37
It doesn't matter why, all that matters is that you are upset and need some comfort - ((Texaxchic)). You are not a total loser or a freak. What is normal anyway? I think it is just some abstract concept that we toss around so that we can judge others and use as an excuse to point fingers. As for having it all together, I bet if you asked a bunch of people to swear on a bible that they had it all together, most, if not all, would be hard pressed to do so. We are a work in progress - all of us. We all have our quirks and idiocyncracies and our fears and insecurities and our strengths and weaknesses. One day you will meet someone who will love you for the person you are, whether you have it all together or not, and then that's when it will be "normal".
Hang in there, ok. Take care.
> I don't even want to say why. Something stupid. I just need some reasurance that I'm not a total loser who will never have a normal relationship with anyone ever. I feel like a freak of nature who will never get it completely together. Sure things are alot better than they were, but its still so far from normal.
>
> -T
Posted by happykat on December 5, 2006, at 20:15:37
In reply to Upset, need hugs, posted by TexasChic on December 5, 2006, at 19:54:37
Hey!
Trust me. Normal is highly overated and boring! Personally I would never want to be called normal. : ) Feel Better!!!
(((TexasChic)))
happykat :)
Posted by TexasChic on December 5, 2006, at 20:18:17
In reply to (((((((((((((((((((TexasChic)))))))))))))))))))))) (nm), posted by Deneb on December 5, 2006, at 20:01:41
I know this is about 75% hormonal, but knowing that doesn't make the feeling stop. I picked up my birth control pills the other day and haven't found them since, which is pretty typical me. And whenever I miss a few days I seem to have a PMS meltdown. There's definitely a connection between hormones, seratonin, depression and all that. Someday they'll announce it and you'll go, hey, TexasChic said that a long time ago.
I've been trying really hard to stay positive, but sometimes the reality of what my life is (or isn't) just flashes in my face. And then it just seems so not worth the bother. Why does trying to be happy have to be so freaking hard???
-T
Posted by TexasChic on December 5, 2006, at 20:24:30
In reply to Thanks yall., posted by TexasChic on December 5, 2006, at 20:18:17
Posted by jylisnotlaughing on December 6, 2006, at 0:01:34
In reply to Upset, need hugs, posted by TexasChic on December 5, 2006, at 19:54:37
most of humanity believe they are not normal..ask around
Posted by Phillipa on December 6, 2006, at 10:47:45
In reply to Re: Upset, need hugs, posted by jylisnotlaughing on December 6, 2006, at 0:01:34
T feel better today? Love Phillipa
Posted by LlurpsieBlossom on December 6, 2006, at 13:12:30
In reply to Upset, need hugs, posted by TexasChic on December 5, 2006, at 19:54:37
Posted by Dinah on December 6, 2006, at 13:18:58
In reply to Upset, need hugs, posted by TexasChic on December 5, 2006, at 19:54:37
Posted by 10derHeart on December 6, 2006, at 14:03:51
In reply to Upset, need hugs, posted by TexasChic on December 5, 2006, at 19:54:37
((((((((((((((((TC))))))))))))))))
You rock, girl!!!
I like you very much indeed.
You are a poster it's delight to read.(oops, that wasn't 'sposed to ryhme...lol)
You are so real and open and just lovelyYou are young with PLENTY of time to figure out this relationship beast.....it's HARD....I know, and what's *my* reason...shoot...I'm old! Okay, well, way oldER than you! Never give up.
Normal IS just what zh said - wise words, those.
And, pssst....don't forget....Damos adores you....what could be nicer than THAT to think of, eh? (no I'm not Canadian, just a copycat)
These feelings will pass, no matter what happened. It'll get better.
Posted by TexasChic on December 6, 2006, at 15:27:36
In reply to Re: Upset, need hugs » TexasChic, posted by 10derHeart on December 6, 2006, at 14:03:51
I feel much better today. I just had something last night trigger an 'I hate myself episode'. But things are looking better today. When I get off at 4 today I'm going to go work out. I just have to keep plugging along I guess. Thanks everybody!
And 10derHeart, yours really made me feel good! How do you know you're older than me?
-T
Posted by TexasChic on December 6, 2006, at 20:18:34
In reply to Re: Upset, need hugs » TexasChic, posted by 10derHeart on December 6, 2006, at 14:03:51
... so I loved it that you described me as real and open and lovely. It just made me smile and feel good. I always figure I come off as obnoxious and childish. But then, maybe I've been told that too many times without questioning the voracity of the person it was coming from. I'm just now barely starting to believe that just because someone can't handle my intensity and ultra-emotional personality, doesn't mean I'm the one that needs to change.
Okay, I'm getting too introspective here. I can't wait until I get moved and can start seeing a T again. This is the type of thing I would discuss.
-T
Posted by Phillipa on December 6, 2006, at 21:54:40
In reply to Thanks so much guys., posted by TexasChic on December 6, 2006, at 15:27:36
Oh l0derHeart do tell your age I told mine. I'm old. No cane yet. Love Phillipa
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