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Posted by llurpsienoodle on February 1, 2008, at 12:08:28
I moved to this area about 8 months ago, and I have plenty of acquaintances and I like the people I work with. When I go to coffee shop everybody knows me and that's a great feeling.
But I don't have enough really close friends. When I leave the house, it's mostly for work, shopping (solitary) or with my h.
I think this might be one of the sources of my anxiety- staying away from people.
-Ll
Posted by Racer on February 1, 2008, at 15:21:56
In reply to I need more IRL friends, posted by llurpsienoodle on February 1, 2008, at 12:08:28
You and me both.
Here are some things I've thought of for myself, some may help you, too -- or at least trigger some thoughts that may lead to better things:
1. I used to attend the weekly informal stitch'n'bitch sessions at my local yarn store. It's closed down now, but I'm going to try another. That led to a couple of closer acquaintances, including the shop owner inviting me to join her and some of her other friends for dinner out most every week. That's been nice -- not perfect, obviously, but it's nice to feel included.
2. MeetUp has some local events that revolve around some of my interests. I keep wanting to go to some of the MeetUp events around here, but haven't yet.
3. Yahoo Groups has some groups that are local to me and again revolve around things that interest me. Again, I haven't gone yet, but want to and plan to.
4. We have a local knitting guild, which is really just a bunch of local knitters who meet once a month. I have no clue what they do, but since I know a bunch of them from the other yarn shop, I figure at least I'll have some contact with other people if I go.
5. I'm on the board of our HOA, so in theory I could meet some neighbors that way.
5.a. Our complex has a big club house by our pool, and I've been trying to get it together to arrange an arts and crafts meet up there. I use the space for things like cutting out fabric when I'm sewing, or doing other things that require space or the absence of kittens, and sometimes other people come in who express interest. I haven't gotten that together, either, but it seemed like a way to meet people who live nearby and have similar interests.
6. I've thought about taking a class in something non-academic -- dance classes, pottery, automotive, just something that interests me and might lead to meeting other people.
7. Local dog parks are great ways to meet people, but I don't think I can put the kittens on leashes and convince anyone that they belong...
Those are some ideas I've had. Maybe we could all contribute some ideas, and have a thread that includes results if we try any of them? Maybe even a thread that we use to encourage each other?
C'mon! Let's all get out there and meet one new person this week!
Posted by Phillipa on February 1, 2008, at 21:42:16
In reply to Re: I need more IRL friends » llurpsienoodle, posted by Racer on February 1, 2008, at 15:21:56
I enjoy just going to stores or riding my bike and stopping to talk to people. I like my solitude always have socialization was always at work for me. Phillipa guess we all have different needs.
Posted by caraher on February 2, 2008, at 8:31:28
In reply to I need more IRL friends, posted by llurpsienoodle on February 1, 2008, at 12:08:28
Yeah. I was filling out some paperwork before an eye exam and they wanted contact info for someone outside your family who lives in the area. I then realized that the only phone number I know for people in my town is my own.
Posted by tina on February 2, 2008, at 10:32:57
In reply to Re: I need more IRL friends » llurpsienoodle, posted by Racer on February 1, 2008, at 15:21:56
All great ideas Racer. I'm going to look into all of it and get myself out into life.
Maybe not today though.....we just got 30+ cms of snow and my car is buried up to the fenders and I can't open my basement door!! grrrr. I've had enough of winter.
Posted by Racer on February 2, 2008, at 12:02:03
In reply to Re: I need more IRL friends » Racer, posted by tina on February 2, 2008, at 10:32:57
It looked like two of my less favorite things: cold and wet...
Hey, I grew up in California! It's not like we've got *weather* here! In fact, I grew up in San Francisco, so we only had three types of weather-like phenomenon: Windy, Foggy, or Crisp. Every once in a very great while, we'd have a roastingly hot day -- up to seventy five degrees Fahrenheit! Can you imagine that sort of heat?
Someday I'd like to see snow again. But probably not actually live in it... I wish you a strong back, and a light shovel.
Posted by tina on February 2, 2008, at 13:23:24
In reply to I saw snow once... » tina, posted by Racer on February 2, 2008, at 12:02:03
I don't have to imagine 75 degrees fahrenheit. We get that and more during the summer. We get the extreme cold and the extreme heat and humidity. Best of both worlds...NOT! LOL
I encourage you to seek out snow again someday racer. It's quite pretty when you don't have to drive in it.
Posted by Kath on February 2, 2008, at 15:10:01
In reply to I saw snow once... » tina, posted by Racer on February 2, 2008, at 12:02:03
>
> Hey, I grew up in California! It's not like we've got *weather* here! In fact, I grew up in San Francisco, so we only had three types of weather-like phenomenon: Windy, Foggy, or Crisp. Every once in a very great while, we'd have a roastingly hot day -- up to seventy five degrees Fahrenheit! Can you imagine that sort of heat?75F was considered ROASTING??? Are you serious?
I was looking for a wink somewhere!Tina got worse snow than we did North of Toronto, but in general we-all have it for so long that I, for one, get totally sick of it....ENOUGH!!
What are your normal temperatures this time of year. We do Celsius here, but most days for a while have been well below freezing.
Kath
Posted by Kath on February 2, 2008, at 15:12:32
In reply to Re: I need more IRL friends » Racer, posted by tina on February 2, 2008, at 10:32:57
Jeez Tina - you got WAY more snow than we did. I guess we got, maybe 4 -5 inches. (I still tend to think in inches). We were being warned about this HORRIBLE storm coming. There were areas around us that were worse - like Barrie, but I think you got all the snow we were 'promised'.
Yuck.
Bet it looked pretty though, once you dug your way out! hugs, Kath
Posted by llurpsienoodle on February 3, 2008, at 7:04:56
In reply to Re: I need more IRL friends » llurpsienoodle, posted by Racer on February 1, 2008, at 15:21:56
I went to a weight watcher's meeting and saw a woman from work. we chatted briefly. She is such a sweetiepie. I will ask her out for coffee the next time I see her.
I also met another woman there who is older than me (she's a grandmother), but she's got this wonderful sarcastic sense of no-nonsense humor. She and I were talking for a good 20 minutes.
I'm going to attend this meeting regularly and hope to meet new folks.
I'm also going to look into meditation groups. I've been meditating on my own for about a month now and nothing particularly frightening has come out of my subconscious. (am I cured?)
I'd also like to organize an arts and crafts meeting. Knitting is so nice because it is portable. A queen size quilt is NOT so portable...
apologies in advance for gramaticl snafoos
-Ll
Posted by Kath on February 3, 2008, at 16:36:51
In reply to I met two new people! » Racer, posted by llurpsienoodle on February 3, 2008, at 7:04:56
Wonderful!!! Good for you!
luv, Kath
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on February 7, 2008, at 6:11:49
In reply to I met two new people! » Racer, posted by llurpsienoodle on February 3, 2008, at 7:04:56
I went to a Stich'n'bitch meeting and had a great time. Apparently I'm the only one who knows how to "throw" yarn. hmph, so I had to show this other girl, who aspires to throw like me.
T encouraged me to go. He said that many people would never have the courage to go up to a complete group of strangers in a cafe and start socializing. This group was pretty welcoming though.
I'm also going to a step aerobics class in about 3 minutes. I have my workout gear on and everything.
(((((socializing)))))
scary though. really scary
-Ll
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