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Posted by Kath on February 8, 2008, at 18:24:46
My son got a job today.
He had had a part-time job in a sports bar kitchen in Dec & early Jan; last worked 2 shifts the first week of Jan while he still had his 'voices' from the psychotic episode. I respected him for that!!! And told him so.
ANYway, his boss said he'd call him in when he needed him & didn't call, didn't call. My son left a couple of messages & finally got hold of him & he wasn't working there any more & they hired all new people!!
So last week I asked son if he wanted me to keep an eye on the paper for anyone hiring in our town. He said yes, handed in a resume to a small local restaurant earlier this week, had an interview today, they said they'd call him back & they did, to offer him the job!!
I am hoping it works out. Should suit him perfectly as it's 3 1/2 hours Wed & Thurs late afternoon to evening & 4 1/2 hours Fri, ending at 9. It's within walking distance from his place.
So by Wed, he'll hopefully have gotten rested from partying on the weekend (~sigh~) and as he starts at 4:30, he'll be okay even if he sleeps in BIGTIME.
So I'm happy & I'm trying to not be attached to it...just know that yes, for now, he has a job which will give a bit of structure to his life, give him a bit extra money & a chance to hopefully meet some new people & feel good about himself. The disability pension here is very good in that for any month that a person on dis. works, they get an extra $100. Granted, they only get to keep 1/2 of what they earn, but it's still an incentive & a chance for them to try to do some work.
Also today, I haven't been feeling as depressed. (Even before I knew he got the job).
luv to all, Kath
Posted by TexasChic on February 8, 2008, at 19:51:39
In reply to I have some good news :-), posted by Kath on February 8, 2008, at 18:24:46
That's great!!! I hope he does well. As long as he's trying that's something positive. You are a really amazing mother. I have a lot of admiration for you.
-T
Posted by Phillipa on February 8, 2008, at 21:12:13
In reply to Re: I have some good news :-), posted by TexasChic on February 8, 2008, at 19:51:39
Kath me too but I'm really glad you're feeling better yourself. Phillipa
Posted by Kath on February 8, 2008, at 21:59:52
In reply to Re: I have some good news :-), posted by TexasChic on February 8, 2008, at 19:51:39
> That's great!!! I hope he does well. As long as he's trying that's something positive. You are a really amazing mother. I have a lot of admiration for you.
>
> -TThx TexasChic - that makes me feel nice!!!!
I just got a lovely EARLY Valentine's Day card from my 31 yr old daughter, telling me she loves me so VERY much & (this is the part that I liked best):
"you kick serious *ss" !! LOL
We have fun, my daughter & I. I take that as a huge compliment!!
Kath
Posted by Kath on February 8, 2008, at 22:01:50
In reply to Re: I have some good news :-), posted by Phillipa on February 8, 2008, at 21:12:13
> Kath me too but I'm really glad you're feeling better yourself. Phillipa
Thx Phillipa. Today I was really busy & took my morning "meds" (St. John's Wort & 5HTP, selenium & folic acid). I usually take 4 sets of them a day & I was so busy that here it was about 5 pm & I had taken only the first ones and I didn't even feel like I needed any more!
I took them then & another one later anyhow, but I think I'm doing better. Thank goodness!
hugs, Kath
Posted by Dinah on February 9, 2008, at 12:53:41
In reply to I have some good news :-), posted by Kath on February 8, 2008, at 18:24:46
That's great!
And also I'm glad you're keeping it in perspective. Keeping a bit of distance will help you keep steady in the face of his ups and downs, which I'm guessing is good for both of you.
Posted by Kath on February 9, 2008, at 17:06:25
In reply to Re: I have some good news :-) » Kath, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2008, at 12:53:41
Thx Dinah,
yes distance is good.
My tendency is to have this sort of gnawing or nagging feeling in the background. It's very vague, but it has to do with not knowing what's going on with him. BOY do I wish there was still a CoDA group in town; or anywhere near! I think I'll look online for one.
I feel often like I'm 'on alert'....waiting for whatever emergency is going to happen next for my son or in his life. I REALLY don't like it.
T says it's from trauma that happened when I was abouta 5 or so & if things cause feelings similar to what I had then, my mind doesn't know the difference! So something that is NOW & in the grand scheme of things, isn't THAT bad, my mind interprets it as AWFUL or I have the feeling that potentially, something awful will happen.
:-( oh well, I keep trying!
A little bit of the good old thing called SUN would be lovely!!!
hugs Kath
Posted by tina on February 9, 2008, at 18:03:10
In reply to I have some good news :-), posted by Kath on February 8, 2008, at 18:24:46
Yay!! Sounds like a very positive step for the lad. Convey my congrats and best wishes to the J-man!
Must be a little load off your mind. (((Kath)))
Posted by Kath on February 9, 2008, at 18:10:53
In reply to Re: I have some good news :-) » Kath, posted by tina on February 9, 2008, at 18:03:10
Thx Tina - will do.
Yes it's a load off my mind, but my mind is so totally scr***d up that it's almost as I have a radar needle scanning to find something ELSE about his life to worry about. I hate it!!
Hope yer well & hope you have some sun out there.
luv, Kath
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