![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 8 of 8. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by daveuk08 on June 14, 2008, at 9:26:32
Hi I`m Dave,this is my 1st posting on this site in my name, I learnt a lot from Slinky,and tried my best to be of help to her. she`s no longer here for me to help, but if theres anything I can do to help anyone please ask. Slinky had a very strong and sometimes stubborn mind, always there for others, but it seems like not for herself.Having got to know her like I did, I strongly felt her problem was more hormonial than bi-polar, as your hormones control the brain more than anything else.
whats your thoughts on this.
Posted by ClearSkies on June 14, 2008, at 9:47:32
In reply to Slinky, posted by daveuk08 on June 14, 2008, at 9:26:32
Hi Dave - welcome to babble as yourself :-)
ClearSkies
Posted by llurpsienoodle on June 14, 2008, at 9:56:14
In reply to Re: Slinky » daveuk08, posted by ClearSkies on June 14, 2008, at 9:47:32
Hi Dave,
I'm so happy to see that you've become a regular poster here.I've been Dx'd as bipolar 3x by different clinicians, but also as hormonal by my marriage therapist. Go figure. Yeah, hormones can really screw with the mind. That's no joke. I watch my moods carefully around PMS time, and can almost predict which day will be my bitchy day. Fortunately I only have one of those a month. steer clear!
-Ll
Posted by Phillipa on June 14, 2008, at 12:24:58
In reply to Slinky, posted by daveuk08 on June 14, 2008, at 9:26:32
Hi Dave again my condolences. I agree strong possibility. May be a redundant question but had she had thyroid function tests as they do control the hormones. Also it's rewarding to help others. Hope you stick around. Phillipa
Posted by fayeroe on June 14, 2008, at 13:58:43
In reply to Hormonal vs. Bipolar, posted by llurpsienoodle on June 14, 2008, at 9:56:14
> Hi Dave,
> I'm so happy to see that you've become a regular poster here.
>
> I've been Dx'd as bipolar 3x by different clinicians, but also as hormonal by my marriage therapist. Go figure. Yeah, hormones can really screw with the mind. That's no joke. I watch my moods carefully around PMS time, and can almost predict which day will be my bitchy day. Fortunately I only have one of those a month. steer clear!
>
> -LlHi, Dave. Welcome to PB.
My thoughts on hormones vs. mental issues are this....I went through menopause with no problems whatsoever. I've never felt that my hormones affected me in mental ways. Physically, the absence of enough estrogen causes some headaches and insomnia.
BipolarII has almost ruined my life. I was mis-diagosed for most of my adult life. I got the proper DX in 2007 from a very young Pdoc. He has me on lamictal and it has stabilized my moods nicely. However, I have what I call "low-grade" depression and now we are trying various ADs to see if I can get over the hump.
I am so sorry about Slinky. I did not know her but I can tell from the posts here that she was very special.
Take care, Pat
Posted by daveuk08 on June 16, 2008, at 2:56:51
In reply to Re: Slinky » daveuk08, posted by ClearSkies on June 14, 2008, at 9:47:32
Thanks to everyone for welcoming me, believe it or not this is very hard for me, I don`t know whether or not Slinky ever asked about hormone checks here, but at present there is so much going through my head I just can`t seem to concentrate on anything else. I`ve not done any substantial work since her death, as I`m in a totally lost state of mind, have been seeing a berievement counciler, but that dose`nt seem to be helping. And to make matters worse, after doing all the running about for her mother and brother, up and down the motorway [ 156 miles each way]8 times,and back and forth to Slinky`s flat 3 times clearing Slinky`s flat without their help, sorting out all the utility companies etc,
now her mother wants no contact with me, nor will she let me be there for the scattering of Slinky`s ashes. Talk about being kicked in the teth when your already down.What can I do ?
Posted by Dinah on June 16, 2008, at 8:19:38
In reply to Re: Slinky, posted by daveuk08 on June 16, 2008, at 2:56:51
I'm sorry, Dave. That really isn't fair, and I'm sure it wouldn't have been what Slinky would have wanted.
What you did, you did for Slinky. And while the sprinkling of her ashes is symbolically important and it would be nice if the people closest to her were unified for that, she's not really in her ashes. There was probably more of who Slinky was in her flat. It might have been convenient for them to let you clean that out, but it did give you a chance to be close to Slinky one more time. I find myself brought close to my father at the most unexpected times. I'll open a book and see that he used it jot down a telephone number, and his writing will bring back an instant of closeness.
Maybe you could come up with a ritual for yourself that would bring a similar sort of closure that scattering ashes would bring? I'm not really good at that sort of thing, but maybe lighting candles, or planting a tree, or maybe you could meditate on the matter and see what comes to mind?
I don't know what you do for a living, but in some strange ways it was healthy for me to be forced to the office after my father's death, and to do the normal everyday things I usually did. It forced me into a world that didn't revolve around his loss. And as angry as that made me, because it didn't seem as if the world *should* go on as usual, I think it helped.
Posted by karen_kay on June 16, 2008, at 13:31:21
In reply to Re: Slinky, posted by daveuk08 on June 16, 2008, at 2:56:51
i had a hot pink kitty cat (much like a tattoo i have on my ankle) that was missing a name. it's new name is slinky and my son suddenly took a liking to slinky. he now sleeps with her. he even says her name.
i'm so sorry for your loss dear. and i'm sorry that her family isn't more accepting of you right now. i guess things like this just affect people in different ways, you know?
i wish i had the right words. but, like usual, dinah is full of wisdom in what she wrote. while cleaning out slinky's place was probably very hard (physically and emotionally), that particular task may help with much needed closure.
please take very good care of yourself. i'm certain that's what slinky would have wanted.
and please do stick around. that's what we want!!
take care and talk to you later dear! and thank you for being so very kind to our beloved slinky, the amazing toy.
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Social | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.