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Posted by Mc Comfortable on June 23, 2008, at 16:29:40
A person very close to me that I love dearly is having surgery tomorrow. It's, uh, sort of a routine thing and all should go really well ---- However ----
I've got the dual worry cycle going on with concern for the obvious and concern for myself to be okay. I feel selfish in that regard. The bite of having issues is no matter how stable I may be, there is that feeling it's tenuous when truly tested. Almost as if the "normal" responses shouldn't happen.
Anyway, guess I just needed to declare I am scared.
Posted by Phillipa on June 24, 2008, at 0:19:50
In reply to I'm scared, posted by Mc Comfortable on June 23, 2008, at 16:29:40
Good luck to your friend and try and stay calm. Do you have anything to take for anxiety? Phillipa
Posted by Racer on June 24, 2008, at 21:30:32
In reply to I'm scared, posted by Mc Comfortable on June 23, 2008, at 16:29:40
> The bite of having issues is no matter how stable I may be, there is that feeling it's tenuous when truly tested. Almost as if the "normal" responses shouldn't happen.
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> Anyway, guess I just needed to declare I am scared.First, congratulations on using a coping strategy!
Isn't that awful? I had this experience a couple of weeks ago -- I had a meeting to go to which I really dreaded. I was going out of my mind with worry -- and then I felt really pathetic, because I invited one of the other attendees to come by my place for a drink before the meeting. Then I realized -- that was a healthy and adaptive coping strategy!
And it felt awful, because I wanted the whole thing to go away, I wanted someone to step in and take care of me, I wanted space aliens to take me away...
{sigh} I really hate Being A Big Girl...
And I can relate to the feeling that normal responses shouldn't happen. There should be a way to avoid them, too, right?
And while we're on the subject, rugs should be self-vacuuming, and clothes self-folding...
Good luck to you, though. I hope everyone involved is well tomorrow.
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