![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 13 of 13. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by paxvox59 on December 10, 2008, at 17:42:11
Hey guys! I'm really feeling miserable right now. Went to see about a job (fast food place)and I think that it would be much too hectic for me right now. trouble is, I'm staying with my bro and sis-in-law, and they don't understand what I'm feeling. I mean, I DO want a job, but I believe that my sanity (and staying off drugs/alcohol) has to come before anything else. I'm trying to tell them that my feeling of terror is a REAL thing, and that it makes me have trouble coping. I don't want to appear like a deadbeat either, which is why I went to check this job out in the first place (it isn't a place I WOULD ever have gone to for a job). I know my limitations, and I feel very fragile just now, but how can I get them to understand this w/o just seeming to be "afraid" of some hard work?
My chest is SO tight, and my heart pounding. I guess it is anxiety driving my emotions.PAX
Posted by fayeroe on December 10, 2008, at 20:09:41
In reply to terror, posted by paxvox59 on December 10, 2008, at 17:42:11
Pax, I'm sorry that you're having the terrors right now. (I had a bit this afternoon myself) I understand how you're feeling uncomfortable about what your family might be thinking.
Have you talked to them about your fears? How long have you been staying there? And how long have you been sober now?
At this time of year you may be able to find something that would be busy but not around too many people. Maybe stocking at a store at night?
Good luck with this. Pat
Posted by Kath on December 10, 2008, at 21:05:14
In reply to terror, posted by paxvox59 on December 10, 2008, at 17:42:11
Hi - I'm sorry I wasn't around earlier.
I'm sorry also that you're having a really hard time right now.
I hear what you're saying about the fast food job. My son, who has schizophrenia (triggered by heavy-duty drug use 2 & 3 years ago & which I'm still sort of 'in denial' about - the schiz; not the drug use) has tried different part-time jobs over the past year & a bit. Working in a fast food place might SEEM really easy, but it can actually be very stressful. I hope you aren't being too hard on yourself about the fact that this would be really stressful for you.
I agree with fayeroe about a stocking job maybe being a good type of job.
I applaud you for knowing that your sanity & staying off drugs & alcohol are the very most important things. I hope that you might have some support in this in a 12-step group, or some other type of support group...maybe there'd be something available through the hospital. Come to think of it, I know that there are on-line support groups that have online meetings. I accidentally interrupted one once, when I was trying to find support groups in case my son was interested. They seemed like REALLY nice people. Ask me, if you're interested & I can ask my daughter (she told me of it in the first place - it wasn't 12-step exactly).
Like fayeroe, I wonder if you've discussed these things that you mentioned, with your brother/sister-in-law. Do you feel comfortable talking with them? Do you feel more comfortable with one of them than with the other?
I'm keeping you in my thoughts. I care about you. I am impressed that you're making a sincere, brave project of going forward in a positive way with your life.
I'm glad you're talking here about how you're feeling & what's going on for you.
I can't remember if you were also thinking of doing volunteer work...sorry, my memory isn't good.
Keep us up-to-date on how things are for you, okay?
much love & caring thoughts, Kath
Posted by Kath on December 10, 2008, at 21:06:12
In reply to terror, posted by paxvox59 on December 10, 2008, at 17:42:11
Wondering if you know about it?
Kath
Posted by Phillipa on December 11, 2008, at 12:44:34
In reply to Thot of turning on Babblemail? » paxvox59, posted by Kath on December 10, 2008, at 21:06:12
Just the name fast food place sounds stressful to me. I know I could never do it. Yes your're number l right now. And this is a hard time of year. Twelve steps sounds like a great idea. Love Phillipa
Posted by paxvox59 on December 11, 2008, at 18:14:53
In reply to Re: Thot of turning on Babblemail?, posted by Phillipa on December 11, 2008, at 12:44:34
Is Babblemail a chat room? Thanks to all for the feedback. Yes, I try to talk with my family, but they do not give creedance to "feelings" being debilitating. Yes, I am doing the volunteer work, but may have to let that go. I went back to the training today because my brother "suggested" that either I'm serious about getting a job (ANY job) that I would not long be welcome to stay with him. Suggested that a "colony" might be the ticket for me (as my one sister keeps trying to convince my family I NEED). All I want is to start back into the world SLOWLY! Yes, I DO go to AA (every day) and that is also a thing that this job will affect. ARRRGGGHHHH!!!! Add to that the fact that I'm adjusting to Wellbutrin after being off it for several years, and trying to come off the Remeron I have been on for "sleep". Down to 7.5 on that last night, but don't have too big a supply left to go much smaller for long.
PAX
Posted by Phillipa on December 11, 2008, at 20:18:39
In reply to Re: Thot of turning on Babblemail?, posted by paxvox59 on December 11, 2008, at 18:14:53
Now that's a lot of stress!!!! Love Phillipa
Posted by Kath on December 11, 2008, at 21:36:49
In reply to Re: Thot of turning on Babblemail?, posted by paxvox59 on December 11, 2008, at 18:14:53
> Is Babblemail a chat room?
~ ~ Babblemail is where we can 'email' each other through PsychoBabble, so that none of actually sees each other's email address (to help us keep our privacy. At the top left of each post is the poster's name. If we have the BAbblemail option turned on, the name is in colour - I think it's blue. For ex my name at the top of this post should be in colour. If you click on it, you'll go to a page where you can write me an email.
There is somewhere where we can turn babblemail option ON or OFF. Right now, yours if off, so nobody can send you a private email.~ ~
Thanks to all for the feedback. Yes, I try to talk with my family, but they do not give creedance to "feelings" being debilitating.
~ ~ Darn!!! Some people don't understand. I'm sorry.~ ~
Yes, I am doing the volunteer work, but may have to let that go. I went back to the training today because my brother "suggested" that either I'm serious about getting a job (ANY job) that I would not long be welcome to stay with him.~ ~ ~ do you mean training for the fast food job? Is it possible for you to work part time insteadof full time?? Or half days or something like that? Oh PAX I'm sorry. ~ ~
Suggested that a "colony" might be the ticket for me (as my one sister keeps trying to convince my family I NEED).
~ ~ What is a colony?? I'm not sure what she means by that. ~ ~All I want is to start back into the world SLOWLY!
~ ~ sounds very wise to me.~ ~Yes, I DO go to AA (every day) and that is also a thing that this job will affect. ARRRGGGHHHH!!!!
~ ~ Darn again. If you have a sponsor at least you can be in contact by phone (or with other members? Do you use brother's & sister-in-law's computer? Just wondered how free you are to be on-line. Might be online meetings.~ ~Add to that the fact that I'm adjusting to Wellbutrin after being off it for several years, and trying to come off the Remeron I have been on for "sleep". Down to 7.5 on that last night, but don't have too big a supply left to go much smaller for long.
~ ~ You have a LOT that you're dealing with right now PAX. I'm not familiar with those meds. Can't remember if you have a doc to prescribe for you? Also can't remember if you were part of the discussion about getting 'free' or low-price meds from the pharmaceutical companies. I think you might have been (sorry bad memory). But I think you need a doctor to perscribe. Maybe hospital could?~ ~
> PAX~~ You're in my thoughts & prayers.
Babblechat is an option for 'live' chatting. I think it's near the top right of page & it will show "Babblechat" & say how many people are in the chat room. Often it's none, or not many. You type in your posting name, password & log in. It will show which "room" the people are in. Let us know if you have trouble.
Can't remember if you posted on the Psychology Board. I have found it very supportive also.
I send you positive, caring thoughts.
luv, Kath
Posted by paxvox59 on December 12, 2008, at 21:28:07
In reply to Not sure how to turn on Babblemail option? » paxvox59, posted by Kath on December 11, 2008, at 21:36:49
Thanks Kath! Yeah, I found the chat deal and even one of my dear friends was there to boot! Got told tonight that the fast food job wasn't going to keep me. I guess it is for the best in the long run, but I am going to HAVE to find something to appease my family. Wish there were adequate social services here!
PAX
Posted by Phillipa on December 13, 2008, at 17:32:12
In reply to Re: Not sure how to turn on Babblemail option?, posted by paxvox59 on December 12, 2008, at 21:28:07
Sorry about the job. Economy is so bad right now. Affecting everything. Hang in something will pop up. Love Phillipa
Posted by Kath on December 13, 2008, at 19:47:42
In reply to Re: Not sure how to turn on Babblemail option?, posted by paxvox59 on December 12, 2008, at 21:28:07
> Thanks Kath! Yeah, I found the chat deal and even one of my dear friends was there to boot! Got told tonight that the fast food job wasn't going to keep me. I guess it is for the best in the long run, but I am going to HAVE to find something to appease my family. Wish there were adequate social services here!
>
> PAX~ ~ ~ Is there some kind of employment agency? Here in Ontario, there are organizations that the employers pay & people can go there to get help finding a job. I hope there might be something like that there for you?? Are you in a small town (can't remember if you said.)
I'm so glad you got to chat with an old friend. Yay.
I send good thoughts. luv, Kath
Posted by paxvox59 on December 18, 2008, at 17:45:06
In reply to Re: Not sure how to turn on Babblemail option? » paxvox59, posted by Kath on December 13, 2008, at 19:47:42
I am in the DC area of Virginia. I came here from SC (where I spent the previous 16 years). Social services in this county are limited since for so many years the area was too affluent to really NEED such services as much. Strangely, I would have had better chances had I remained in SC, but that was not really an option since I had no place to stay. ARRGGHHHH!!! I know that things will change, but that doesn't make this pain in my chest or my anxiety go away!
PAX
Posted by Kath on December 18, 2008, at 21:16:53
In reply to Re: Not sure how to turn on Babblemail option?, posted by paxvox59 on December 18, 2008, at 17:45:06
> I am in the DC area of Virginia. I came here from SC (where I spent the previous 16 years). Social services in this county are limited since for so many years the area was too affluent to really NEED such services as much.
~ ~ ~ How frustrating!! Also, frustrating that there would have been more options if you'd been able to stay in SC.
You're sounding somewhat better PAX; I hope you're feeling at least a bit better. I'm sorry about the pain & the anxiety. Did you end up going back to see the doctor.
I'm glad you 'checked in' here. I was worrying about you today.
Do you think you've tracked down all the social services available?
Please keep us updated if you feel up to it.
luv, Kath
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Social | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.