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Posted by Angela2 on August 12, 2009, at 14:11:44
My life feels empty sometimes. I don't have many friends. I don't really have any close friends. Although I do have friends. I don't have a job. I don't do much even though I am a lot better. I get nervous about doing things I guess, and don't really have the willpower to fight it. I'm in a program that helps people like me I guess and I'm thinking about leaving because I don't know if it's for me and I can't decide what to do. I'm stressed. And feel empty. :( I hope this is the right place to post this.
Posted by Angela2 on August 12, 2009, at 14:37:07
In reply to Empty, posted by Angela2 on August 12, 2009, at 14:11:44
When something is right for you? Or wrong for you? For instance...I am in a program that helps people get back into the community. But I feel an immense amount of resistance being in this program for reasons that I don't want to say here, and it's not that I don't want to get back into the community and make friends. I am a little confused I guess
Posted by Partlycloudy on August 12, 2009, at 16:58:23
In reply to how do you know, posted by Angela2 on August 12, 2009, at 14:37:07
What does your intuition tell you about this program, Angela? It could be that this isn't the "perfect" fit for you - which would be surprising. Perhaps it's better to have the take what you want, and leave the rest attitude - one size cannot fit all. Maybe this progress will be a combination of different efforts before you find something that you're both comfortable with AND that you find a challenge.
It's also possible that this isn't the right time for you - I'm finding that a project that I planned to do, having done something similar before, is simply not possible for me to achieve at this moment. It doesn't mean that I've failed - instead it means that I've been able to recognize that *something* doesn't feel right to me, and I'm acting on it, instead of forcing myself to do something because I "should".
Listen to your inner voice. Ask yourself what you would like to be able to do, or what is making you feel distressed. This stuff is important.
pc
Posted by Angela2 on August 12, 2009, at 19:01:51
In reply to Re: how do you know » Angela2, posted by Partlycloudy on August 12, 2009, at 16:58:23
Thanks for telling me about my inner voice PC. Those are good questions to ask. Thanks for the support.
Posted by Phillipa on August 13, 2009, at 1:10:30
In reply to Re: how do you know, posted by Angela2 on August 12, 2009, at 19:01:51
Angela I remember when you couldn't drive some days at all. Do you feel your're better since starting the program? Phillipa
Posted by Angela2 on August 13, 2009, at 7:57:38
In reply to Re: how do you know » Angela2, posted by Phillipa on August 13, 2009, at 1:10:30
Hey Phillipa, yeah I was gonna mention that. Driving used to be a huge issue for me as well as just being very anxious. I have overcome my issues with driving and I forget to be proud of myself for that because it was earlier in the year. Guess I need to pat myself on the back more. As far as being in the program goes, I feel OK about it after reading someone's blog. Isn't that funny. I'm still going to talk to my T though too. thanks.
Posted by Kath on August 13, 2009, at 19:28:04
In reply to how do you know, posted by Angela2 on August 12, 2009, at 14:37:07
Hi Angela,
In the past, when I've mused to my 'growed-up daughter' about not being sure whether I want to go ahead & do something or not, she's said,
"Do you think you'd regret it if you did it?
Do you think you'd regret it if you didn't do it?"Sometimes that's been useful for me.
Another thing I've noticed is that if I'm sort of 'wafffling' back & forth, sometimes the 'grown-up me' wants to do something, & if I get in touch with the 'inner little girl me' - she is scared about it, or bored, or something else. Sometimes it helps me to get in touch with that part & see if there is anything to be scared about, or to see if there's something that part of me wants to do, but I haven't been making time for (that my inner child part would like & is rebelling about not doing - hence she doesn't want to do this 'boring' thing).
I like the 'take what you want & leave the rest behind' way of looking at things.
hugs, Kath
Posted by Angela2 on August 14, 2009, at 7:10:03
In reply to Re: how do you know » Angela2, posted by Kath on August 13, 2009, at 19:28:04
Hey Kath. What you said makes a lot of sense to me and I just wanna say thanks. Those are good questions to ask too. I talked to my T yesterday and we never talked about it because there were other things we talked about instead I found equally important. For now, I've decided to stick with it. I think that's a good decision for now.
I think part of my issue is that sometimes I feel like that is "the only thing I do" and I feel stressed by this. I started volunteering yesterday though, so that's something. thanks.
Posted by Kath on August 14, 2009, at 9:42:02
In reply to Re: how do you know » Kath, posted by Angela2 on August 14, 2009, at 7:10:03
Hi Angela,
I'm glad you have a T to support you & help you.
I hope you enjoy the volunteering. Good for you - for trying it. I think it takes courage to volunteer. Well, it took courage for me, when I've done it in the past.
I also have found that at times in my life when I've felt lonely & have pushed myself to join a group, or volunteer in order to try & 'fill up' my life a bit, it has often been difficult. A couple of times I ended up feeling more lonely, because people at the group knew each other & I still felt alone - even more alone in a group of people who knew each other! My experience was that sometimes the group didn't turn out to be right for me; sometimes it took a while to feel more comfortable & often that happened when someone 'new' replaced me as the new person & I was able to get to know them & help to make them feel welcome & feel more comfortable.
I hope the volunteer job is a good 'fit'. It wouldn't surprise me if it might take a few tries to find the right 'fit' in volunteer work.
Yay for you, for doing this Angela.Hugs, Kath
Posted by Phillipa on August 14, 2009, at 20:04:30
In reply to Re: how do you know » Angela2, posted by Kath on August 14, 2009, at 9:42:02
Volunteering can lead to good stuff. As volunteered in a psych unit of a hospital and that's why I ended up going to Nursing School. What type of volunteering are you doing? Love Phillipa
Posted by Angela2 on August 15, 2009, at 16:55:43
In reply to Re: how do you know » Kath, posted by Phillipa on August 14, 2009, at 20:04:30
Phillipa I volunteer in a nursing home/assisted living for senior citizens
Posted by Phillipa on August 15, 2009, at 21:42:52
In reply to Re: how do you know » Phillipa, posted by Angela2 on August 15, 2009, at 16:55:43
Angela that's great think you'd like to be an RN? Love Phillipa very noble and caring.
Posted by Angela2 on August 15, 2009, at 22:14:02
In reply to Re: how do you know » Angela2, posted by Phillipa on August 15, 2009, at 21:42:52
Phillipa, I don't think I want to be a nurse because needles creep me out. I think nurses are amazing though and I have a lot of respect for them.
Posted by Phillipa on August 16, 2009, at 0:18:23
In reply to Re: how do you know » Phillipa, posted by Angela2 on August 15, 2009, at 22:14:02
Well you could be an occupational therapist they make great money and no needles. Love Phillipa
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