Psycho-Babble Social Thread 936628

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Apathy...

Posted by cloudydaze on February 10, 2010, at 20:13:51

I feel like I need to learn apathy. I just need to not care about anyone anymore, except for my family and close friends. I just care way too much. I get attached easily. I have even freaked people out by acts of random kindness...and the guy i rather like right now...i think he's afraid to be with me because he's afraid of hurting me.

I can never have a relationship that works, because i'm too nice. How does that even make sense? So i've decided I need to stop being nice. Quit trying to help and take care of people...its not easy - i've just always done so.

Its just that sometimes I wonder if feeling nothing is better than hurting? I'm not sure if it is. I just know i don't want to hurt.

Re: Apathy... » cloudydaze

Posted by obsidian on February 10, 2010, at 22:51:41

In reply to Apathy..., posted by cloudydaze on February 10, 2010, at 20:13:51

well, I don't know about apathy, but I would certainly like to be less affected by a lot of things/people that just sap my energy
even with people I love there is a lot I can't control
it's a hard balance to manage I think, between finding meaning and value in life and detaching to a healthy extent

mostly, I think it's about taking care of yourself first
I'm sorry you're hurting, feel better soon
-sid

Re: Apathy...

Posted by Sigismund on February 11, 2010, at 1:14:36

In reply to Apathy..., posted by cloudydaze on February 10, 2010, at 20:13:51

Ideally, I'd like to be able to be vulnerable but able to bear it. This might mean pain with detachment. But hopefully also no need to follow the compulsion to be nice in all circumstances.

I like the idea of the power of vulnerability, not sure why.

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