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Posted by Frustratedmama on March 29, 2010, at 19:00:12
Hi
A little hesitant to post this but lately I have become more and more aware of how sick I really am. I read other posts that indicate concerns with side effects of meds related to difficulty with sex. Well, I can't help but get upset by this as I haven't had an interest in dating, relationships, or sex for YEARS; yet I am still working, and managing to keep a household running (barely at times) but I wonder if I am sicker than I think....I have lost interest in just about everything I ever enjoyed. Sorry- just had to vent.
FM
Posted by gorgeouslygrim on March 29, 2010, at 22:05:24
In reply to Single Life, posted by Frustratedmama on March 29, 2010, at 19:00:12
So does it frustrate you that people complain about the loss of their sex lives and sit around not working because you are working and keeping your house together and havent had interest in a lot of things? I guess I am a little confused if you are saying that you're frustrated with others or yourself? Are you on medication? In regards to you not having an interest in anything that made you happy before,I have seen that happen in a lot of individuals on SSRI's. I am not sure what is happening with you but the fact that you can keep a house together and running is a huge accomplishment that us mother's do not give ourselves enough credit for.
Before I got really bad, I was going to work full time,maybe 50 hours or so not including the hour drive time, raising a one year old and a four year old, and working on my Bachelors degree full time as with a 3.7 GPA. I even did this when I wasn't in a manic state. When I went on leave I wasnt as bad as I am now but went on a leave to actually have the time to get help. Now that I am not working, I have gotten a lot worst. You may just be held together by that home you keep together and the job that you work in.As for losing interest,a lot of single mothers, or at least the ones that I know, do not have an interest in dating/sex because they are too busy trying to be mom and dad. My point is try not to be so hard on yourself, you are keeping a job and a home and thats more than a lot of us. If you feel you may be worst than you are then make time for yourself to get help. Do not ever forget to make time for yourself because you need to be happy (as much as possible LOL!) in order to be the mom your children need. Keep up the good work hun!
Posted by Frustratedmama on April 1, 2010, at 13:54:00
In reply to Re: Single Life » Frustratedmama, posted by gorgeouslygrim on March 29, 2010, at 22:05:24
My post was kind of silly i guess, just feel like I have lost so much in my life due to depression. SOmetimes I selfishly am jealous of those that are not working and on disability due to depression. I know lots of people who are in this situation due to psychological diability....and they seem to be a lot happier than I am...I was just venting....Kind of feel like it's not fair sometimes....I lost my "life" to this illness....have no interest in anything anymore but go through the motions cause I feel that's what I HAVE to do....sorry for the rant and I hope this post doesn't upset anyone....just feeling sorry for myself....
Posted by gorgeouslygrim on April 1, 2010, at 22:46:17
In reply to Re: Single Life » gorgeouslygrim, posted by Frustratedmama on April 1, 2010, at 13:54:00
Hey Frustratedmamma,
Dont feel bad for venting. I felt the same way and then I went on a leave myself. I hate it! I think its making me worst. I'm going back to work on the 13th but am scared as hell. Please feel comfortable to vent that's what we are here for. : )
Posted by ed_uk2010 on April 2, 2010, at 14:15:20
In reply to Single Life, posted by Frustratedmama on March 29, 2010, at 19:00:12
>I read other posts that indicate concerns with side effects of meds related to difficulty with sex. Well, I can't help but get upset by this as I haven't had an interest in dating, relationships, or sex for YEARS...
I agree that this is annoying. I've often wondered how sick people can really be when their main concern seems to be that they can't orgasm on Lexapro (or whatever). For someone claiming to be severely ill, I would have thought that orgasms would be the least of their concerns.
Anyway, not everyone will agree with me so I'd better shut up.
Posted by gorgeouslygrim on April 2, 2010, at 19:01:59
In reply to Re: Single Life » Frustratedmama, posted by ed_uk2010 on April 2, 2010, at 14:15:20
I understand but sex is SO important to me. Its the one good thing in a life of hell. LOL! I can't function most days and don't want to leave the house and if that happens, I feel SO much better. Sex increases endorphines. Its natures way of making you feel good, so why loose that too?! Not upset just sharing my point.
Posted by ed_uk2010 on April 3, 2010, at 11:25:16
In reply to Re: Single Life » ed_uk2010, posted by gorgeouslygrim on April 2, 2010, at 19:01:59
> I understand but sex is SO important to me. Its the one good thing in a life of hell. LOL! I can't function most days and don't want to leave the house and if that happens, I feel SO much better. Sex increases endorphines. Its natures way of making you feel good, so why loose that too?! Not upset just sharing my point.
It's OK, I know what you mean. I think a lot of people feel the same way :)
Posted by floatingbridge on April 3, 2010, at 18:25:53
In reply to Single Life, posted by Frustratedmama on March 29, 2010, at 19:00:12
FM, you sound busy to me--very, very busy. My single mum friends who work and parent are overwhelmed. They have not dated in years--it's simply off their radar.
I feel guilty because I do not work--'just' parent, household stuff. I also feel jealous of them because they do not deal with (some fr*ggin') mental illness. I would trade off in an instant not to be dragging a millstone along with me since before my son was born (I did work into his 2nd year).
I'm working on working (sounds silly, I know).
Sex is so back-burner right now. Actually, it's in the freezer.
And I do mourn, get p*ssed-off, have any number of legitimate reactions concerning what I have lost, and what I have to rebuild, and what I have to compensate for, etc.
Hang in there FM. Maybe the desire for desire is a positive, albeit frustrating, sign? And frankly, I wish you didn't have to work and deal with all you do right now. I wish we could take something off your plate. Hugs!
Posted by Frustratedmama on April 3, 2010, at 19:48:59
In reply to Re: Single Life » Frustratedmama, posted by floatingbridge on April 3, 2010, at 18:25:53
Thanks to all who took the time to read my post and answer....I feel better knowing I am not alone in this and that no matter what I say....someone out there understands me! Why I ever left this board is beyond me....I guess I thought I didn't need it for a while- but I know I was wrong....I get more out of this than any therapy session I ever went to so I will stay here this time...Thanks again for the support!
FM
Posted by rnny on May 6, 2010, at 16:23:05
In reply to Single Life, posted by Frustratedmama on March 29, 2010, at 19:00:12
not having an interest in sex just means no available sexy partners have crossed your path. the waste any of the juice.
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