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Posted by yoga_lucy on November 14, 2010, at 21:19:40
In reply to Re: Incapable of love?, posted by Shy_Girl on April 2, 2005, at 17:46:03
I'm having a similar issue, hope I'm posting in the proper place. I guess I act like I don't care about people that I'm in relationships with? Or maybe its my spouse? He says that its me, and I've done similar things like saying that he is hugging me too much.
My daughter said something strange tonight though. I asked her if he didn't live with us if she would miss him. She said no. Is this normal? My kids could really care less if he is here or not. Have they inherited my inability? Or does this have something to do with the way HE is?
Posted by Dinah on November 16, 2010, at 18:33:32
In reply to Re: Incapable of love?, posted by yoga_lucy on November 14, 2010, at 21:19:40
People do have different ways to feel love, and I suppose there are also differing abilities to feel love.
Is this a pattern with you, or specific to your spouse?
Do you feel empathy for others? Is it easy to put yourself in the shoes of others? Some people might not be able to feel love, but can do love.
Was there any particular reason you asked your daughter that question? Are you planning to leave your husband? A child might be careful with their feelings if they aren't feeling safe and secure. So might an adult...
Posted by yoga_lucy on November 17, 2010, at 2:37:33
In reply to Re: Incapable of love?, posted by Dinah on November 16, 2010, at 18:33:32
Sometimes it seems I have no feelings at all for people. But I do think that I am compassionate and empathetic at other times.
I asked her because he left last week. I asked her because I wanted to know how it would make her feel if he were to stay gone. He usually leaves when he gets angry, sometimes for days at time, this time for a week. He takes his ring off..
I think it's him. Perhaps it is apparent to my daughter's sub-conscience that we are not stable, or that he does not want to be here.
I think he has issues making deep connections, or maybe it is me or the combination of us? This is why I haven't left him or let him go when he leaves for days at a time. We are only a year into our marriage, I feel like if I stick it out he will see that he really is loved, and maybe I will get that in return.
I know this sounds more like just relationship issues and less like mental health issues but there is something going on here. Something deep. We are missing a connection.
This is the end of the thread.
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