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Posted by Christ_empowered on December 12, 2010, at 20:32:55
Has anyone else felt this way? As if you're just now (or maybe at some point in the past) becoming an actual human being, with all the doubts, emotions, and depth that being truly human involves? Is it growing up, or something else? I'm not saying I was some sort of talking monkey before, but...something was missing. Depth, I suppose. I'm not uber-profound now, but I think I'm decidedly less vapid than I was in the past.
Anyway, I was wondering if other people could relate.
Posted by Solstice on December 12, 2010, at 20:42:23
In reply to Am I just now becoming a real person?, posted by Christ_empowered on December 12, 2010, at 20:32:55
> Has anyone else felt this way? As if you're just now (or maybe at some point in the past) becoming an actual human being, with all the doubts, emotions, and depth that being truly human involves? Is it growing up, or something else? I'm not saying I was some sort of talking monkey before, but...something was missing. Depth, I suppose. I'm not uber-profound now, but I think I'm decidedly less vapid than I was in the past.
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> Anyway, I was wondering if other people could relate.
Hi CE..I think you're describing a whole process that is part 'growing up' - but even more, I think it has to do with what happens when we become united with ourself.. (integrated?) - when we self-reflect.. when we find ourselves in a place where we are able to think more deeply.
I think trauma, as well as substance addictions, can interrupt that process. Maybe it means you are achieving substantial healing that has allowed a part of you that was hiding under a rock to breathe and become more alive? I'm just speculating - we all have such different 'stories.' But I do think I can relate to what you're talking about. Life is a journey - and everybody is at such different places. I don't think many find what you're talking about easily.. and i think some people live their whole lives without ever thinking or feeling deeply. So I think it's worth celebrating that you are discovering deeper places within yourself!
Solstice
Posted by Deneb on December 13, 2010, at 20:33:06
In reply to Am I just now becoming a real person?, posted by Christ_empowered on December 12, 2010, at 20:32:55
Can you tell me what helped you get to this stage of your life?
I think I'm stuck. I may be growing slowly, but it is so frustrating.
Years and years of social phobia have left me ill equipped for the world. I so behind. I smile now when I see a child interacting with others and are not afraid to speak their mind or be spontaneous. I was never like that.
Posted by emmanuel98 on December 13, 2010, at 21:09:24
In reply to Re: Am I just now becoming a real person?, posted by Solstice on December 12, 2010, at 20:42:23
When I was in therapy for several months, I told my therapist that I felt like a hologram that was dissolving. Like I had been just two-dimensional and was now learning to be three-dimensional. It took a while longer before I really felt like a whole, integrated person. I learned to not compartmentalize everything, to reflect on things and incorporate experiences into my sense of self.
So what you're describing is common and real progress.
Posted by Christ_empowered on December 14, 2010, at 15:12:41
In reply to Re: Am I just now becoming a real person?, posted by emmanuel98 on December 13, 2010, at 21:09:24
hey everyone...thanks for the responses.
deneb--I think my progress is partly due to my Christian beliefs and to being hyper-socialized as part of a faith-based rehab program. Right now, I'm going through a rough patch but I'm well-equipped to move forward (meds, counseling, prospects for continued education, etc.), so its not so terrible. I would think that personal growth, like spiritual growth, is an uneven process. My advice (feel free to reject it, btw--I'm not a guru or anything) would be to accept your situation and work to improve it as best you can, using whatever resources you have at your disposal.
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