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Posted by Shes_InItForTheMoney on September 19, 2011, at 3:24:37
Okay, so I met this lady who is close to my age, and is a nurse. We met a few times, and ya we fooled around a bit. I honestly felt it all went a bit too fast. But, I also felt a bit uncomfortable, like I don't want to be batten down in a relationship, and I think that is (a relationship) what she wants. I am going back to school in January to re-train in a different career field, and want to be free to just focus on that. So, should I just come out and say it, or?
Thanks for any help,
Jay
Posted by Solstice on September 19, 2011, at 3:53:20
In reply to Jay needs help.......woman probs (again.!), posted by Shes_InItForTheMoney on September 19, 2011, at 3:24:37
> Okay, so I met this lady who is close to my age, and is a nurse. We met a few times, and ya we fooled around a bit. I honestly felt it all went a bit too fast. But, I also felt a bit uncomfortable, like I don't want to be batten down in a relationship, and I think that is (a relationship) what she wants. I am going back to school in January to re-train in a different career field, and want to be free to just focus on that. So, should I just come out and say it, or?
>
> Thanks for any help,
> Jay
Yeah, Jay.. ya gotta be upfront about wanting a Very casual relationship. It's easy to interpret 'fooling around' as meaning there is an intent to have a purposeful relationship that includes commitment to each others' needs. So the sooner you get it out on the table that you don't want to feel obligated, the better. She might be hurt, and you could lose access to her.. but I think you'll feel better once you've said it.Solstice
Posted by Dinah on September 19, 2011, at 8:09:14
In reply to Re: Jay needs help.......woman probs (again.!), posted by Solstice on September 19, 2011, at 3:53:20
Posted by Phillipa on September 19, 2011, at 11:03:02
In reply to Jay needs help.......woman probs (again.!), posted by Shes_InItForTheMoney on September 19, 2011, at 3:24:37
Jay surprised to hear you are changing careers know it's off topic but what are you going to pursue? Sounds like you have come a long way. Phillipa
Posted by Shes_InItForTheMoney on September 22, 2011, at 14:07:00
In reply to Re: Jay needs help.......woman probs (again.!), posted by Solstice on September 19, 2011, at 3:53:20
> > Okay, so I met this lady who is close to my age, and is a nurse. We met a few times, and ya we fooled around a bit. I honestly felt it all went a bit too fast. But, I also felt a bit uncomfortable, like I don't want to be batten down in a relationship, and I think that is (a relationship) what she wants. I am going back to school in January to re-train in a different career field, and want to be free to just focus on that. So, should I just come out and say it, or?
> >
> > Thanks for any help,
> > Jay
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> Yeah, Jay.. ya gotta be upfront about wanting a Very casual relationship. It's easy to interpret 'fooling around' as meaning there is an intent to have a purposeful relationship that includes commitment to each others' needs. So the sooner you get it out on the table that you don't want to feel obligated, the better. She might be hurt, and you could lose access to her.. but I think you'll feel better once you've said it.
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> SolsticeYeah, I was VERY uncomfortable being intimate so soon. Most guys would be like.."Ya, go for it..", but I felt a bit violated. Yes I was willing, but she invited it on. Thanks for your's and Dinah's and Phillipa's words.
Hugs,
Jay
Posted by Shes_InItForTheMoney on September 28, 2011, at 12:31:19
In reply to Re: Jay needs help.......woman probs (again.!) » Shes_InItForTheMoney, posted by Phillipa on September 19, 2011, at 11:03:02
> Jay surprised to hear you are changing careers know it's off topic but what are you going to pursue? Sounds like you have come a long way. Phillipa
This took me about a year of deliberation.
I am taking the pre-health sciences courses, and am somewhat sure I will go the nursing route. (Full RN)
It is the only REALLY HOT career field here in Canada that is steadily hiring, and pays very good money. I will be about 45-46 when I am done. I have a few close friends who are RN's, and they guided me on the decision. I was ALSO looking at possibly being a Radiologist or a Sonographer. But I have many of the basic skills for nursing from looking after my clients in social services. Math is going to be tricky for me, but if I apply myself I can do it.Thanks for asking, and your kind comments. :)
ps. You where in Nursing, weren't you?
Posted by Phillipa on September 28, 2011, at 19:43:36
In reply to Re: Jay needs help...career » Phillipa, posted by Shes_InItForTheMoney on September 28, 2011, at 12:31:19
Jay yes RN graduated c*um laude age 38. At the time which was 85 the Canadian RN's were coming to the States to work as money was better. Has this now changed? Phillipa ps you will make an excellent nurse which specialty do you feel you will persue? Phillipa
Posted by Shes_InItForTheMoney on September 29, 2011, at 2:09:27
In reply to Re: Jay needs help...career » Shes_InItForTheMoney, posted by Phillipa on September 28, 2011, at 19:43:36
> Jay yes RN graduated c*um laude age 38. At the time which was 85 the Canadian RN's were coming to the States to work as money was better. Has this now changed? Phillipa ps you will make an excellent nurse which specialty do you feel you will persue? Phillipa
Hi, thank you Phillipa :). Oh healthcare here in Canada is the hottest, neediest job market. Not that it is the only incentive, but I have a few RN friends who easily make 100,000+ a year if they took the overtime. I was actually thinking psychiatry...geezz wonder why?..lol
Jay
Posted by Phillipa on September 29, 2011, at 18:41:15
In reply to Re: Jay needs help...career » Phillipa, posted by Shes_InItForTheMoney on September 29, 2011, at 2:09:27
Jay recommend two years first of medical so you spot abnormalities in health. The psych Rn's who don't know any of this stuff are clueless. I floated to all the floors for 13 years then settled in Psych as had all my skills and loved it. You also will. You will understand be able to empathize which those with no prior hx can't. Go for it. Phillipa
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