Posted by Elizabeth on October 26, 1999, at 21:07:12
In reply to Re: Daughter's inapropriate sexual behavior, posted by BeenThere on October 20, 1999, at 12:02:53
> A. Daughter, dealing with that rush of hormones and possibly clinically depressed/biploar.
Woah, where did this diagnosis come from? Why do people feel a need to pathologize the normal expression of sexuality? At worst, the girl was getting some cheap thrills. She has a right to cheap thrills.
>She has probably been "screaming" for attention from her "important" father for a long
>time. Plus, the only power she has is to rattle YOUR cage!But she tried to conceal it from her parents. That doesn't sound like a cry for attention to me.
I don't think the father is in "denial." Remember that we are hearing just one of three (possibly more) sides of the story.
> Believe me, I know all about this because I was your daughter 30y ago. Not
> only was my father "absent" in my life but my parents fought constantly.I didn't see any indication that the girl's father is "absent." As a physician, he is probably *busy*, but that is a far cry from absent.
I think you might be projecting some of your own stuff onto this story.
> In addition, I was sexually molested by my grandfather. This may or may not
> be the case with her but don't rule it out.Umm, I think this is premature. Cybersex does not equate to sexual molestation. I see no indication that this girl is being or has been sexually molested either.
> Don't quit! try to get the entire family
> involved in counseling - if possible you might look into an "intervention" if
> you have some trusted friends/peers.Just what sort of "intervention" did you have in mind? Does this involve removing the girl from her home, having her committed to an institution, brainwashing, all of the above, ...?
poster:Elizabeth
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