Posted by Adam on January 4, 2000, at 23:21:26
In reply to Re: Depression and Relationships, posted by Nancy on December 26, 1999, at 0:08:22
Hey, Nancy,
How are things? I don't want to gush too much here, but I am having a difficult time believing what a positive thing my being totally honest with this new person in my life has been. As much as I have advocated to others the need to disclose when things get serious (based largely on my own bad experiences due to putting it off), I did not imagine in my wildest dreams how much caring and acceptance I could recieve from someone despite all my skeletons (and they are many, I'm afraid).
If I had to get dumped or blown off 100 times to separate the wheat from the chaff, so to speak, it would be worth it, knowing what I know now. Somehow, despite myself, I have managed to meet a wonderful person, and the feeling that I can tell her anything and visa-versa has made me as happy as I have ever been, I think. There is no substitute for this. Real intimacy.
Oh, my word, I'm in love big time. To whoever: Please, please, please trust me on this one: The truth is your friend. I admit fully that during the worst times of my depression I lacked the strength or the insight to always follow such advice, and I was certainly a bit immature anyway. Nothing less than hard and I daresay tragic lessons have brought me this far. If this all seems obvious, please forgive my revelatory tone; it was not always so to me. And if saying something might help one person avoid half the damage I did to myself I'd shout it from the rooftops at this point.
> > Nancy,
> >
> > It sounds like you are doing really well! You seem to have a very healthy and positive outlook on things, and that is definitely the key. Congrats about the new conclusions you have come to. Hope your Christmas Day is going excellent! :)
> >
> > --Alice
>
> Thanks Alice, and I will keep you updated!
>
> Merry Christmas!
>
> Nancy
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