Posted by Mark H. on October 10, 2000, at 21:32:04
In reply to Sexual problems???, posted by David Peterson on October 10, 2000, at 20:39:11
Dear David,
I've written extensively on my experiences with sexual side effects from anti-depressants earlier on this board, as have many other people, so you may want to search the archives for more information. However, your experiences are pretty unusual.
Here are my impressions (unsubstantiated guesses from a totally unqualified layperson):
1.) I don't know what you mean by "jell," but it doesn't sound good. If this persists after you have ejaculated a few times so you know your system has been recently cleared, I'd recommend seeing a urologist about it. Nothing you're taking (or have taken) should cause a thickening of your ejaculate, which sounds more like a symptom of dehydration. A urologist will also make sure you haven't picked up a urinary tract infection. (Chlamidia (sp?), in particular, is everywhere, and some people can carry it in a semi-latent form for years without showing symptoms, and couples can ping-pong it back and forth between them indefinitely unless both are treated at the same time.)
2.) There is quite a bit of documentation for a sexual rebound effect after quitting an SSRI antidepressant. It is likely that your premature ejaculations will pass and your system return to "normal" once your body stops reacting to the ABSENCE of the Zoloft. In my experience with Effexor, this could take up to four or five weeks.
3.) If this is a strange reaction to the lorazepam, I would take it as a sign that you should not be taking the stuff. Ativan can be highly addictive, and I get withdrawal symptoms if I take it for even three days. You may wish to discuss with your doctor the possibility of trying an alternative anxiolytic, even if it's in the same family. Valium, although notorious for being over-prescribed in the 60s and 70s, is still the best all-around benzodiazepine for a lot of people, and although it can contribute to erectile dysfunction in older men particularly, at 31 it probably won't affect you negatively. In some men, it also helps prevent premature ejaculation. (Like Ativan, Valium can be addictive, but in my experience, somewhat less so.)
4.) Condoms can be useful in slowing you down.
5.) If your wife is open to receiving oral sex, and if you enjoy offering it, you can bring her to orgasm first, so that you don't have misgivings about your timing.
I hope some of these thoughts are helpful.
Best wishes and let us know what worked,
Mark H.
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