Posted by Ann NY on May 11, 2001, at 16:12:24
In reply to Worried about friend's daughter, posted by Gracie2 on January 26, 2001, at 0:56:30
My cousins moved in with my family after being taken away from their manic-depressive mother.
The little girl, 5 yr., started pulling out all her eye lashes at night. She was taken to a dermatologist who did allergy test etc. Basically, it was stress/emotional. It stopped after a couple of months.
Years of neglect and abuse require a very long time to heal. Hopefully she is in a loving and stable house now. I'm sure she needs a tremendous amount of love and attention. Also, I'm sure these kids are stressing your friend out with their understandable neediness.
My cousin is still struggling with issues, she's 23 now.
I hope these young children fair well. Maybe you could help supply some extra attention -i.e. take each out individually for and Ice cream or pizza once and a while. I used to have neighbors who were refugee from Bosnia. I used to take the 7 year old out for the same and it meant a great deal to her.
P.S.: My cousins' situation was very bad and it was obvious they had problems. But be careful not to say the obvious or critizie. My cousin's pre-school teacher call ME down (an 8th grader) to tell me Liz had problems and was crying out for attention. NO KIDDING. She was so out of line. But of course she didn't volunteer to help. And my parents were doing everything they could. Wounds need time to heal. Please be sensitive to all involved.
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