Posted by TamaraJ on February 24, 2005, at 12:49:12 [reposted on February 26, 2005, at 3:01:42 | original URL]
In reply to Anybody have any Advice? My daughter, posted by Susan47 on February 24, 2005, at 11:56:27
I don't really know what to say because I was the exact same way as your daughter when I was younger (minus the talent of course). I am sure you have done this, but I will ask anyway. Have you asked her why she feels she does not measure up? Sometimes people, particularly young people, struggle with self-confidence and singing their own praises because they don't want to appear conceited or egotistical. It can be a real struggle for some - if I see the good in myself, and how accomplished and talented I am, then I will become overly self-centered and drive people away. It can take a while for someone to become comfortable exuding or displaying confidence about their abilities and good qualities. I agree with you, though, it is a shame when someone with so much talent and potential can not recognize and embrace their gifts. Keep talking to her, reassuring her, encouraging her. Hopefully she will be able to believe in herself soon.
Tamara
> she has no self-confidence. She's so beautiful and smart and full of life, (aren't all our daughters?) but she can't see it and she can't play it out. I don't know what to do anymore. She gets crushes on boys which are really worrisome because they consume her, she's frustrated because she feels she's a year behind in school and she feels dumb ... she won't practice her singing, she has the most beautiful voice you've ever heard in a child, honest to God, a pure sweet soprano that she just belts out in such beautiful innocence but she thinks she can't sing. This Saturday she was supposed to serve at a pasta dinner the choir's putting on, serving and singing, you know? But she's cancelling out, she won't go. This is a choir she had to audition for, seriously, right up to what's important to you in life kind of questions, who's your favourite singer, what's your favourite kind of music? They travel too. You know how choirs travel. Omigod this child is throwing her life away and I don't seem to have any control!!! HELP!!!
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