Posted by Lindenblüte on September 29, 2006, at 12:03:37
In reply to Re: Marcia Marcia Marcia!!, posted by mattye on September 27, 2006, at 11:30:19
you know Mattye,
Even if you *did* go up on stage and get applause from so many people, you might not feel worthy of him!I'm a musician too. I've had my moments of glory. It's not all it's cracked up to be. Sure, there are highs. I might feel high for a day or three. I might feel happy when people remark on my performance. Eventually, though, it just becomes a line on my resume, and life goes on.
One thing that is always hard for ME is that my husband doesn't get stage fright. I do, badly. So, when I get off stage and breath a sigh of relief that I survived, and heck, maybe even did some good stuff out there, he's just kind of like "whatever. good job honey!"
See? it doesn't matter what you do, or how you do it. Somethings come harder or easier for different people. Some people's failures are my idea of success and vice-versa. So, you just have to put things into perspective. What can YOU do today? Are you doing the best job you can today with the gifts that you've been given and with the skills that you've worked so hard to develop?
It's so important to be realistic. Don't compare today with your best day EVER. Don't compare!. Just recognize that you feel better some days, crappier on other days. Do the best you can, in every moment, hour, day, week. Don't set yourself goals that just leave you feeling worse.
Some days my goals are: get out of bed. eat. talk.
Other days my goals and to-do lists are ambitious, detailed and I get LOTs done. C'est la vie!I have my crappy days. so does your guy, I bet!
-Li
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