Posted by Nadezda on August 8, 2008, at 16:33:37
In reply to Re: Family situation...need to talk, please » Sigismund, posted by fayeroe on August 8, 2008, at 15:50:14
It sounds to me as though you know the answer, you just aren't comfortable with it. Maybe you can't be completely.
It could be that you need to accept hurting your oldest sister, much as you don't want to-- and hope that she can understand, or that you can do things to make it up to her in the future--or, to show your caring now in other ways.
You can pay your respects to your brother and to what he meant to you indirectly. It's not as though he called and begged for forgiveness or understanding and wanted some closenesss himself at this time.
Unless there is some part of you that genuinely would feel a sense of loss in not going-- I can't see how you could do it.
If you did-- I don't think you would be saying the things that you've said.
Nadezda
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