Posted by alexandra_k on July 11, 2005, at 19:28:14
In reply to meth addicted husband, posted by Mijafelix on July 11, 2005, at 15:54:02
Hey there. I'm sorry you are going through such a crappy situation :-( Not too many people post to the newbies board... You might have more luck with responses over on the substance use board (about co-dependence and about the nature of addiction) and / or over on the relationships board. I'm pretty sure that there are other Babblers here in similar situations to the one you have found yourself in.
It sounds to me...
That you might need to take the hard line. Either he is going to work on his addiction or you are going to throw him out (is that feasible??) What options do you have? It is just that if you can deliver an honest ultimatum then (and I know this is going to be hard...) but then he really is forced to choose between his drugs and his family.It sounds like you have been really terrific to him with trying to get him help. But you can't fix it for him and he has to at least be willing to meet what you have done for him with respect to following up on that help and taking steps towards fixing this problem.
I guess that if you just stay... Then he doesn't have to make a choice. He gets his drugs and his family. The only way to get him to stop with the drugs may well be to require him to make that choice. It is hard because there is always the possibility that he will choose the drugs. But you can't keep living in this crappy situation. You deserve better. And so do your kids.
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