Posted by Emily Elizabeth on November 9, 2005, at 23:50:59
In reply to Just want some thoughts..., posted by browneyedgirl827 on November 9, 2005, at 22:08:56
Welcome to babble.
Sounds like a complex situation. Do you see a therapist or counselor? If not, I would highly recommend it. One of the great things abt colleges is that they typically have counseling ctrs where students can be seen for little to no $ (and the 'rents don't have to know). A counselor could be very helpful in sorting out a complex issue like this.
As for telling your parents abt your bf, I guess there are a few practical considerations, like how often you see them, talk to them, how close you are to them, etc. If you don't talk often keeping such a secret may be okay for a while.
Another possibility is that you could say something vague to your parents like, "Our breakup was a lot more complicated than I let on before. I'd rather not discuss it in detail, but I have thought about this a lot and I have decided to get back together w/ him."
Another option would be to use this as an opportunity to tell them abt your eating issues. It gives you an excuse to bring it up.
I can sympathize with your situation. I had a man that I was VERY in love with, we had an ugly break up (which was in fact his fault), and then after 1.5 yrs we sorta got back together. I didn't tell my parents b/c they always hated him and REALLY hated him after he left me. So, we eventually decided just to be friends (b/c I never really would get over the issues around the break-up) and I never told my parents. No harm done. I always figured that if I got to the point where I was sure that I was going to marry him, then I'd tell them. Since I never told them, it saved me a LOT of stress.
Hope this helps. You may also want to post on the "eating" board.
Best,
EE
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