Posted by rskontos on November 13, 2008, at 8:58:40
In reply to Re: relationships, posted by secret on November 12, 2008, at 22:27:33
Secret,
Life is too short to take on the guilt of so many people. Take it from me, I have done this so many years, and now that I am in therapy I have learned I don't have to. Not even for my children. So while you, through this, I see have a good heart, it doesn't make you responsible for anything. In the end, his actions are his. His response to it all is his. And in the end, your feelings are not even something you can make be there the way he wants or even sometimes the way you might. What I mean, is we love who we love. I would venture to say that you don't. And as for him being right, I think you need distance from him to figure out how you feel. You feel conflicted with so many telling you what to do, him, your family, his family. What you need to do, is distance yourself, and then you will see what is right for you. I, think, in the end, you will move on. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for how you feel, including and especially yourself. Sometimes we are our worst enemies.
Take care, come visit me sometimes on the psychology board. I hang there mostly.
rsk
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