Posted by terra miller on June 29, 2002, at 14:20:55
In reply to What my therapist says about posting here., posted by beardedlady on June 28, 2002, at 6:14:07
i think when you get to the point when you know what is and what is not good for you, then you can benefit from any community. but i think it's important to be wise but compassionate. some people may never move forward, and the hard thing is to let them have that choice and not let that become your annoyance. that's so hard when you begin to care about people. but i have been in groups where people continue to move forward, and then they don't stagnate. i was in one group where i know some of the people for three years and it was still wholesome because we were all still working. i remember when one got sidetracked and stayed there, and we had to pull back emotionally which was painful, but we couldn't make her choices for her. i have the attitude of being who i know that i am and doing it genuinely without trying as best as i can to fix anybody else. and if someone decides not to fix themself, i listen inside to wisdom that maybe i don't need to read their posts anymore because it might be doing more harm to me than good. and then i try to move on.
random thoughts from terra.
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