Posted by sid on May 22, 2002, at 21:32:15
In reply to speaking as a mom... » sid, posted by BeARdEdLaDY on May 22, 2002, at 19:48:43
Well, someone yesterday wrote to me in terms of benefit-cost analysis.
The child (she's now 17) is being touched at times, in front of others to make her ill at ease, and she is teased with sexual jokes. Just like a was - and still am unfortunately!
I wonder what's more disruptive to her - knowing it's wrong, being embarrassed of her ridiculous father. Or being taken out of her home and having her entire family ripped apart. I will talk to her again. There are psychologists at her school, O will advise her to go talk to them. Her parents can afford therapy, they even have insurance for it (my sister is in therapy - if she doesn't change, he will leave her! AH! She is such a lost cause). Mind you, it's weird to have your father's insurance pay for sessions that could send him to prison. I could help myself with money for therapy if need be. I'm just not sure what's best for her. She's pretty balanced, for a teenager, she's serious, has talent. She has that going for her at least. If she stays home, I will encourage her to leave ASAP for her university program after.
I already asked her if anything happened to her. She said no, not with her dad. It did before, with her older brother who would repeatedly touch her inappropriately - and laugh about it; he was taught well by his dad's example I guess. She now has no relationship with him except for screaming at him from time to time, even though they live in the same house. She has a very strong character and I have seen her tell her father off before. In a few months, she'll be in pre-college (CEGEP - a compulsory step b/w high school and university here), and she will discover a new universe. She's goiung into social sciences, so I will push very much for her to take sexuality and psych classes so she gets thoroughly informed youger than me! I took science, so it took me forever to realize such behavior was not appropriate.
I am just not sure that blowing away her entire universe is the right thing to do. Tomorrow I will call CPS and ask them their advice.
Thanks for your concern. I don't want to seem like I am not concerned, I am. I just seem to be more concerned about it than my niece is bothered by it, so the next step needs to be in proportion to the bad things that are happening or not to her. I saw him, once, try to touch her breasts, during a party. I am not even sure CPS would move on that. I need to talk to them first.
I will keep you posted...
- sid
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