Posted by Dinah on November 12, 2002, at 7:49:31
In reply to mistake?, posted by likelife on November 11, 2002, at 22:02:03
Ah, Lifelike, I can't count the number of things I've done around my therapist that, to me, were totally embarassing. Including letters. And I once told him I had spent an especially stressful week wanting to curl up on his lap (I have a maternal transference to him). He has always acted like the professional and helped me feel less embarassed by them. And it always turned out fine.
If your therapist is a professional, she won't be discombobulated by your letter, and she will understand how much you risked by sending it. She will probably react in a professional and therapeutic way.
I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your therapist, or what the rules are. But my therapist would hate it if I stewed over something like this for a couple of weeks. He'd far prefer that I call him, ask him if he had received the letter, and confided that I was now reluctant to go to therapy. Then he'd probably tell me everything was ok and to please not feel too embarassed to come in, that everything would be fine.
And I again recommend the book "In Session: The Bond Between Women and Their Therapists" by Deborah Lott. It talks about how therapy sets up an intimate situation, and the reactions that we have to that intimate situation.
Dinah
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