Posted by namesake on December 12, 2002, at 22:49:04
In reply to Re: Attracted to Therapist - should I bring it up? » pinkeye, posted by rayww on December 7, 2002, at 11:35:50
> There is no competition for the perfection of fantasy.
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> As long as your attraction is only a fantasy it will be easier to get over than if your attraction breaks out of the fantasy and unleashes itself into physical addiction.
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> Some quotes on sexual attraction from "Thoughts from the Heart of the Soul" :
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> "Connecting the experience of addictive sexual attraction with the avoidance of painful emotions is a significant step in healing an addiction to sex." ....and.... "An addictive sexual attraction is never to another person. It is to an image you hold of that person. Addictive sexual interactions are barriers to intimacy, though they may appear to be intimate."
> "The experience of addictive sexual attraction is a flag that signals a craving for meaning, purpose, and value." ... and..."A sexual addict is an individual in acute pain, consumed by feelings of inadequacy."
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> Rather than address your attraction to him personally, perhaps you could address topics such as the ones I have quoted.
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I read with interest what you said. The book sounds very interesting, I am going to read it.
(I have had some similar feelings as Pinkeye)Now for a question which may sound dumb. What did you mean by "keep it in the fantasy" verses allowing it to "breakout into the physical"? Are you meaning a 2 way physical relationship with the individuals,and/or, a physical experience by the one person,alone, who is attracted? Without getting too graphic, can you explain?I have posted thoughts on this, however, I was new to the website, and think that I posted on 2 different boards. (First psychological babble, then next, psycho social babble). This was within the last week.I'm trying to become familiar with the way things work here.
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