Posted by jane d on March 8, 2003, at 13:54:45
In reply to Re: caregiver burnout, posted by Justherself on March 7, 2003, at 23:13:56
Nice to see your name here again. I'm glad you are starting to feel better. It's ironic that feeling better can be just as hard. Suddenly you have to address everything that went wrong while you were ill.
If I can find the nerve I'll raise your question with the person I have most negatively affected. Off hand, the first thing I think of is to make sure that he knows that it is not his responsibility to cure you - or to do any more than he is able to. Not this time, and not in any hypothetical next time. That, if he reaches a breaking point he can leave even if you are in terrible shape. That way he shouldn't have to leave now to protect himself from something that might never happen. I can remember feeling myself that it would be somehow dishonerable to put myself in a position where someone might need me because I didn't know if I could actually do it if the time came. I'd probably still feel that way but it doesn't make a lot of sense to me anymore.
Good luck.
Jane
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