Posted by Dinah on July 15, 2003, at 18:51:07
In reply to Re: Boy, can I relate, posted by pinkeye on July 14, 2003, at 20:57:52
I guess it's up to you whether the fantasy is worth more to you than the deeper intimacy in the therapist/client relationship that can come from being completely honest.
I kind of figure I've got the best part of my therapist. I don't really want more from him, or envy his wife or kids or friends. I get his undivided attention and nonjudgemental (relatively) support. The sessions focus on my needs not his. The people in his real life don't get that from him. The only downside is I have to pay.
He tells me sometimes that he isn't my mother. And that he doesn't want to be my mother. And I don't get upset at all. Because he might make a lousy real mother, but he makes a great therapist/mom. And that's more than enough for me.
Sometimes the real thing can be even better than the fantasy.
poster:Dinah
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