Posted by Penny on September 2, 2003, at 7:50:03
In reply to Do you ever wonder?, posted by Dinah on September 1, 2003, at 20:35:44
Ya' know - the weight example reminds me of how it was in the hospital - I guess they were so concerned with everyone being stable, they didn't like to delve too much into the painful stuff, so they focused on things that had a clear-cut way of being fixed - "if you aren't in good shape, here are some exercises to do" or "eat a healthy, balanced diet each day." Even right down to the imposed bed and wake times. Exercise time, socialization time, therapy time, doctor time, medication regimen - as though the structure was just going to fix the problem.
Certainly, if we look at the answers being as easy as "Eat only 1200 calories a day and exercise at least 30 minutes a day and you'll eventually get to a healthy weight" it makes it harder for us to understand why that's so friggin' hard to do. For me - it's not that I don't KNOW how to lose weight, but I just can't seem to.
Another part of it, though - do you ever find yourself doing pretty well and then becoming so stressed or overwhelmed by doing well that you're sent spiraling downhill again? My most recent thing - had lost 35 lbs., was dating a new guy, was finally starting to make some headway into some of my issues - then I started slipping and next thing I knew, I wasn't losing weight anymore because I was eating everything I could get my hands on, I was feeling really bad about myself again, I stopped seeing the guy, and I then ended up in the hospital.
And I, too, recognize that many/all of my self-destructive behaviors are filling some need I have, but just KNOWING that doesn't fix things...
Wish I had the answers. Boy, I'd be rich if I did.
Your marriage counseling example makes me think of Dr. Phil - if it's not working, change it! If ONLY it was that easy...
Simple, yes, but not easy...
P
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