Posted by HannahW on October 8, 2003, at 22:55:49
In reply to The Last Therapy, Oh My!, posted by Medusa on October 7, 2003, at 15:25:20
>Yes, I'm a promiscuous therapy-ee.
Some of us are therapy "HOs!" :) That makes me think of my favorite quote from "In Session" (This is just a paraphrase) "Seeing a therapist is like seeing a prostitute. You go in, and even though it's awkward, you hurry up and take off your clothes so you can get what you came for. Then, just when you're feeling relaxed and comfortable, you have to hurry up and put your clothes back on so someone else can use the room." That cracks me up whenever I think about it.
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> She said that her goal is for this to be my last therapy. I think that's not unrealistic, in some ways - I've learned to get specific help in specific ways, to MAKE some things better by gaining skills that no amount of understanding and talk from a therapist could give me. Such as preparing a toast with a rhetoric coach rather than fretting for weeks about the event (then-inlaw snakepit) where I had to give it. I have an appointment with a career coach, which should be results-oriented. I want to work more on the DBT skills, whether on-line, in a group, or with an individual therapist.Good for you for taking control of things! I think that's really, really great! I have no idea how old you are, but do you remember that song by Swingout Sister, "Break Out?" It's about breaking away from the crap in your life, and you make me think of that.
>I'm getting "mothering" I never got by paying for services like a weekly cleaning person and taxis when it's storming, and skills-training like the rhetoric coach.
That is an absolutely fabulous way of looking at the "mothering" issue. Those are really wonderful ways of taking care of yourself the way a perfect mother--the one we all wish we had--would. (I always had to clean the entire house myself when I was a kid while my fat-donkeyed dad just sat there and watched. Oh--he was considerate enough to lift his legs so I could vaccuum under them!)
>Did I mention that after the systems/short-term therapy I did last winter, where the therapist told me I wasn't sufficiently feminine, that I spent what formerly went to her fee on really, really nice underthings? It's time for another round of THAT kind of therapy!
You absolutely rock! Why haven't I met you before?! (I went to the chiropractor yesterday and was horrified when I realized that my socks had holes in them, and I was wearing iron underwear! Oh, the humiliation!)
I really hope for all the best for you. I admire that you've taken your life by the horns and you're going to force it into submission! Good for you! You're an inspiration. :)
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