Posted by HannahW on October 29, 2003, at 12:17:47
In reply to Re: Being friends with T AFTER treatment commences, posted by fallsfall on October 29, 2003, at 10:20:57
I made an attempt at the same thing you're hoping for. In my case, I wanted to be friends with my pdoc before we started therapy, but after we started med management.
She wouldn't go for it, although in talking to her about it afterward, I do believe she wanted to (Of course, she couldn't say so directly.) She said it's not Wrong with a capital W, but that she would always be conscious that I was once her patient, and therefore wouldn't feel as free to say things to me as would be necessary in a real friendship. She said it would be too restricting for her. I good-naturedly argued with her about it, but once she made her decision (which took several days) she wouldn't budge.
Of course, if anyone *did* become friends with their T, they would have to find a new therapist. I know for sure that no decent therapist would ever try to have both relationships at once.
I think a lot of people would like to be friends with their therapist. You're not alone. Sigh.
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