Posted by Dinah on October 31, 2003, at 16:54:27
In reply to Another question for the club, posted by Poet on October 31, 2003, at 13:11:58
I'm with Medusa. Could you ask her to think of alternatives that didn't involve abandonment, such as adding a specialist.
My therapist once asked me, hypothetically, what I would do if he said that if I cut he'd refer me out. And I replied that if I had to, I'd lie through my teeth. And that I hoped I wouldn't have to. He said that's what he figured I'd say, and that's why he never laid down that ultimatum. I saw my survival depending on him not abandoning me. Lying would have felt like my only choice.
Of course, I'm not advocating that you lie to your therapist. I just think they shouldn't put us in that position, and I'm glad mine didn't.
Talk to her about alternatives.
(P.S. I eventually offered on my own to promise not to cut, and he agreed not to terminate me if I found I couldn't keep the promise. And I very rarely cut any more.)
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