Posted by karen_kay on November 2, 2003, at 19:17:30
In reply to Re: Perfect Therapy Patient Club, posted by Medusa on October 30, 2003, at 2:35:07
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> New question: what does the therapist's attire mean?
>Well, we have discussed my attire many times, as I change my clothes many times a day. He always look fabulous. He mentioned that he enjoys looking nice. It means just that. I think that he is a little boy playing the big boy role myself, as I soemtimes get the sense that he is a little akward (not in the office, just in life in general) Then again, how would I know, other then what he tells me. Oh, adn when he comes to get me in the main waiting area, he has this "little boy" head looking down, hands in pocket, voice very low and I'm fairly loud and sometimes he has to repeat himself. But, that is just the impression I get.
> > How often is it "OK" to call your therapist,
> I only have an office number..Is there another one to reach him?? Huh?? Umm.. I may have called him 5 times to reschedule around classes.
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> > Does your therapist ever make mistakes? What was the worst one? Did you tell them?
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>Once he tried to make me do free association. We sat there in silence for about 35 minutes. I was so mad I couldn't even think of anything to say. He put me in the hospital once too. Big mistake! Hell yeah I tell him when he makes a mistake. Instead of signing a suicide contract, he just locked me up. But, he is relatively new at this and I got out the next day. But, it cost me a grand. I kept threatening to send him the bill for it. I still remind him about it occassionally too! Just jokinkly now, I'll be like, "Hey, remember that time you put me in the hospital?" He just laughs now.> > New question: when you've told the therapist about her/his mistakes, how have they responded? What's the Perfect Therapist response?
> I think at first my concern was that I didn't receive any type of counceling in the hospital. All they did was lock me up over night. It was horrible. I just wanted him to listen to me and he jumped the gun. He didn't even really listen to me, he just called my boyfriend and locked me up in the hospital. It was basically like cutting me off midsentence. Now, the perfect therapist response is laughter, laugh with the patient!
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> > Are you jealous of their other clients?
> He has others? I'm not the only one? Yeah, I have actually told him once that I prefer to think I am his only client. He laughed and I didn't. I saw one of his other clients once and she was prettier than I am. I thought I was going to cry. But, I'm sure he likes me better anyway.
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> > Have you searched on the internet for them (my personal favorite)? Driven past their house? Do you know what kind of car they drive? Do you know the car's license number?
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> I have (hate admitting it) searched on the internet. I don't know where he lives, or I would drive past his house. I don't know his car. I have talked to him about what would happen if he found me waiting by his car. He said he would just tell me to go home.
> > What DO they want from us???????=
> He honestly wants me to be happy. I think 3 months ago, I would have said money, but now I am sure he wants me to be happy. And I think he just wants me period. More accurately, maybe I want him. Why can't it be the other way around?> New question: for other therapy HOs, what patterns have you noticed/reactions have you gotten from many, most or all of your therapists?
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> He laughs a whole lot! Maybe I'm witty! Maybe I'm charming. Maybe he's just laughing at me. Not exactly sure yet. Also, he leans forward with his head on his fists but when I say something perplexing or interesting, he leans back.Ok, I have a question... or two
>Who analyzes their therapist, other than me obviously?
I think that I tend to talk about sex on occassion, though not that often. I think that mine missed out on some different experimental opportunities before he got married (such as threesomes). He tends to bring up an issue of a threesome that I had a long time ago that really has nothing to do with anything and he kinda gets a look on his face and I can't help but wonder if he missed out on his opportunity before he got married. Another example, I have a friend who is rather unamusing and I mentioned I could corupt her and he naturally assumed I meant by sex, which I didn't. It was funny, because he sat back and got a smirk on his face. I got defensive because I knew he thought I was talking about sex, which I wasn't. Seems like he thinks I am always talking about sex.
Plus, we are close to the same age, I am 24 he may be around 30 ish, but I wounder if he feels like a little boy trying to act like a man because most of the other therapists in the building are considerably older.
Anyone else try to out-shrink their shrink or just me????>Anyone else completely in love with their therapist?
>Had someone come to a session?>My boyfriend came to one and it was horrible. I felt like I was being attacked from both sides. I felt like I couldn't accurately prepare for the session and my old man wouldn't let me coach him on what to say.
> Do you argue with your therapist a lot?
> I used to all the time. Until I started leading the sessions. A few weeks ago he started letting me lead the sessions and now we don't argue anymore. And I don't answer with I don't know anymore. And when he starts to get boring I cut him off because we don't have time for his ramblings, and I tell him that. It is fun to tell him that too!
Karen
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