Posted by Miss Honeychurch on November 7, 2003, at 13:52:55
Several weeks ago my therapist confessed to me that his mother had died the previous week.
He didn't make a big deal about it or anything, and actually used it in reference to a problem I was experiencing.Anyway, I sent him a condolence note the next day. I then went away for 2 weeks and just saw him again yesterday.
He mentioned nothing about the note. I didn't want to bring it up since that seemed like I was using the death of his mother to be all about ME
by asking if he received my note. So I said nothing and he said nothing. But I did wish he would have acknowledged it.I am figuring he has been busy (of course) and it slipped his mind. The fatalistic part of me
though thinks that he never got it and I would hate for him to think that he would mention
his mother's death to me and me do nothing! And the pessimistic part of me thinks that maybe he was displeased that I somehow intruded on his personal life by sending him
a note. Or maybe he is embarassed or chagrined that he shared this with me.Any thoughts? Do I bring it up or just forget about it?
poster:Miss Honeychurch
thread:277494
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