Posted by Dr. Rod on November 25, 2003, at 18:20:54
In reply to Oh please help!, posted by Jellibabe on November 24, 2003, at 1:34:12
I have heard, by simple calculations, over 5000 personal stories while in several Overeaters Anonymous, and countless Adult-Children of Alcoholics 12 step meetings, and what I continuously hear in the fore ground is the label, "Low self-esteem"... I bought into it for years and years... Not anymore...
Instead of the foreground being "Low self-esteem" to be worried about, lurking in the background is total ignorance of self-respect... All mixed up is childhood obligations blocking adult notions of respect... I challenge you!!! How do you know how to do respect for others when you can't do self respect because obligatory thinking blocks it???
Sounds like your therapist has wooed you in an attempt for you to start liking yourself, and your faulty logic has you falling in love the person who turns out to only be a messenger not a suitor...
He doesn't want you to fall in love with him... He wants you to fall in love with the person only you see in your mirror... Then the rest is down hill...
Next you can abandon the baggage of your past and discover your ability to make a difference... You can embrace first self respect, then respect for "nouns"... Neither he nor I nor anyone can do this for you... Time to step up to the plate and swing away...
If not, tomorrow will be the same as yesterday...
Note: "nouns" are people, places, things, and ideas (and other than yourself, surely)...
poster:Dr. Rod
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