Posted by gardenergirl on January 27, 2004, at 7:12:18
In reply to More T obsessive stuff, posted by Asya on January 26, 2004, at 22:48:32
It's okay! Being obsessed means you are invested in the therapy relationship. I sometimes ask "how are you" and sometimes just jump right into it. I think the times I start with social niceties are times when I am more anxious about what might come up...or I'm avoiding what I know I should talk about. Sometimes my T answers, sometimes not. I know he interprets it, because he also has interpreted the fact that I came in wearing jeans one day on my day off (T: "you seem to be loosening up" , me: "no, it's my day off, and I never get to wear jeans." you big dummy! He also used the fact that I was wearing boots one day to suggest that I was "wading through the muck, and you need proper protection for that." Well, actually, they're fashionable right now, but whatever.) Sorry for the aside, but sometimes he cracks me up.
Anyway, as hurtful as it might be to have a reminder about her daughter, if it is bothering you, I would bring it up. It's very thoughtful and kind of you to be concerned about your T's feelings. Remember, however, that managing her feelings is HER job, not yours. She is there as a professional, for YOU.
Good luck,
gg
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