Posted by DaisyM on January 27, 2004, at 19:02:30
In reply to Re: Lookdownfish- maritial angst update, posted by Dinah on January 27, 2004, at 18:10:25
Now that is an interesting thought, isn't it? I agree that we can't expect people to be what they are not but maybe I'm just waking up to how much "not" there is in the people around me.
A wise friend (my friend who is a retired Therapist) asked me why I continued to seek support from the same people, and they "fail" me time and again. I said because it seemed to me these people "should" be able to be there for me (mother, husband, most frequently seen friend). She disagreed, saying, like you, that some people just can't and we love them for what they can do. They just aren't your support, etc.
I guess she is right but that means, in looking around, I really have no one. And that makes me really really sad. Of course, I have no one to blame but myself. And that just makes me mad at me.
My Therapist keeps saying my view of intimacy and support is skewed right now and may change as I figure stuff out and feel stronger within myself. I hope he is right otherwise he better be prepared to hang around for awhile. :)
I sound like you!
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