Posted by pegasus on January 28, 2004, at 18:58:30
In reply to Last session with my T (rather long), posted by thewriteone on January 28, 2004, at 14:47:10
I'm so sorry this is upsetting you so much. I can relate, having lost my therapist recently to a move (his, not mine). I don't know how it will be for you to say goodbye to your T, but I can tell you that for me, it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. I'm definitely grieving, and sometimes it's just so frustrating not to have him here anymore that I get pretty upset. But I thought I would completely fall apart, and I didn't. I don't know if this will help, but here are some things that helped me:
- We made a plan that I could still email or call him after he was gone, at least until I got established with another T.
- I made a plan for specific things I would do to honor our relationship after he left (books I'd read, places I'd go)
- I decided that the best I could do to prepare for a good last session was to have a clear intention of it being good. So I pictured how I wanted it to be, and went in with that image in my mind.
- I made a list of things that seemed important to say at the end, and then made sure I said them all.I hope some of this might help. Also, really do consider finding another therapist at your new location. I'm finding that having someone else to talk to, even though it seemed awful at first, is helping a lot.
good luck and hugs
-p
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