Posted by 64Bowtie on January 30, 2004, at 16:37:29
In reply to Re: Startling!!! » 64Bowtie, posted by Penny on January 30, 2004, at 13:39:53
Actually, I see unsuccessful suicide most often portrayed or reported as an attempt at getting someone's attention, and/or striking out at someone in anger. Very seldom is it characterized as self-punishment in my experience. With successful suicides, these points are moot.
I do make an assumption. That being that the troubles most often linked to the act suicide are the result of conflict, tiny or big, but unresolved. The suicide is always a permanent solution to a temporary condition when linked to conflict.
A solution is to take the time to study conflict and better ways to resolve it. For too-many folks, conflict resloution is a one-step process. They progress from the conflict directly to violence.
This has happened to me when I answer the call of my innards to never suffer dissatisfaction. Conflict can dissatisfy me. I am aware of my failing today, so I will walk away dissatisfied, knowing that I no longer invoke violence or coercion to resolve my dissatisfactions.
Perhaps this discussion seems too far away from that of suicide. I also assume that suicidal thoughts somehow start with dissatisfaction.
Dissatisfaction is not an intellectual abstract phenomenon. It is an impulse, a reflex, and nearly involuntary in adulthood (completely involuntary in an infant). A person contemplating suicide, may then migrate all the way to violence as I stated above, to stike out in anger, permanently.
The etiology of the dissatisfaction reflex starts at birth, and can serve us well, or plague us all our lives, our choice.
The dissatisfaction reflex is worth studying, along with healthy conflict resolution strategies. This is how I found my way out from my foibles and troubles.
See, that's just the way I am, though........
Rod
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