Posted by fallsfall on February 5, 2004, at 22:09:17
In reply to I got my wish, posted by crushedout on February 5, 2004, at 14:11:40
I can see in your description how she is trying to maintain her boundaries. That, I think, is a good thing.
Sharing her attraction with you, however, does put you in a position of continuing to hope for more - and that could be a bad thing.
Have you ever talked with someone whose therapist DID violate these kinds of boundaries? I think that it might be helpful for you to know what they thought about it at the time and what they think about it now. I have not had this experience, or I would share it with you. If you were interested, you could post an email address for them to write to you - it might be something they don't want to put on a public board.
I understand your longing (believe me - I've had the longing in a maternal sense with my old therapist). I understand the intensity. I understand why you wouldn't want to give it up. I also worry about you.
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