Posted by pegasus on March 5, 2004, at 0:11:44
In reply to Re: Do you have a picture of your T?, posted by Apperceptor on March 4, 2004, at 23:46:39
Apperceptor,
I appreciate your second post. The first one did definitely rile me up. I think it was because therapy is *such* hard work. I interpreted your comments as being very judgmental and unsupportive of the struggles that most of us have in therapy. A lot of us hate the fact that we are so dependent on our therapists. I think many of us, if we could choose, would not want to be in a position of wanting a photo of our therapists and all the rest. It's a very vulnerable position.
I'm sure that a lot of us (myself definitely) think *a lot* about the fact that our therapists have lives and problems and that we might be burdening them. We probably think about it too much sometimes. Those thoughts create major obstacles to therapy. The whole deal with therapy is that we, as clients, need to be willing to open up to our therapists and tell them extremely intimate things. Part of that is trusting that they are able and willing to handle our intimacy. I would hope that any therapist would understand that creating that type of intimate relationship is going to involve some side effects such as feeling dependent, and attached, and possibly wanting to know more about our therapists than we're allowed to know, or wanting objects that remind us of them. I would hope that a therapist who is not comfortable with those side effects would not enter into long term therapy with clients, or at least not the type that requires revealing extremely intimate and painful details of their lives. I would be mortified to find that my therapist had thoughts like some that you expressed in your first post. I'd drop therapy like a rock, and never look back. I'm going to show her your post, and discuss it with her, just to make sure I'm ok with her.
- p
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