Posted by pinkeye on April 2, 2004, at 17:43:51
In reply to Re: argh - termination - help?, posted by shortelise on April 2, 2004, at 17:24:20
Actually I am in the same position as you.. I live my life well nowadays and don't need any therapy really. But still I miss him and nothing was able to reduce the pain.. On top of it, I have erotic transference towards him which only makes it worse. And you know, he actually lives in a different country so I cannot see him even if I wish to or even if I am desperate for atleast a year :-(.. Sometimes I envy you guys so much who atleast get to see your therapists :-)
And maybe if you can get your therapist to agree, you don't even have to terminate. I feel it might be good to have somebody who will be like a life coach.. somebody to go and talk to once in a week (well if you can afford it and if he agrees to take you). My therapist is quite strict in that he doesn't treat patients who are well... but he is a psychiatrist and not a therapist. Maybe regular therapists will have more flexible boundaries and yours might agree to see you perhaps once in a month for however long you like.
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