Posted by platinumbride on April 4, 2004, at 15:33:35
In reply to Re: discussing methodology » platinumbride, posted by spoc on April 4, 2004, at 15:01:59
But with no warning, what I was receiving ranged from a total void to hunting only for the negative. It made me feel nauseous assuming for months that that must be all there was to see in me, despite a previous history of good self esteem in some of those areas -- which I couldn't afford to lose as well. He wouldn't clue me in even when he could see how much this simple failure to clarify his methods vs. those I had asked for was devastating me.
I am so sorry that you had to go through that. One would think that therapists would possess a certain degree of intuition with regard to patients. I mean, would it have killed him to notice that his methods were not what you needed? I don't know....maybe they are so trained to NOT take things personally that they stop paying attention to what is right in front of their eyes...
Then there are the ones who seem to just be evil and controlling. Sometimes one has to remember that Hannibal Lechter was a shrink! Damn, that is scary!
I guess there is a part in everyone that would like to be able to help, and some of us will jump through a thousand hoops before we realize that we are simply not capable of doing so for a particular individual. I also believe that a lot of therapists kind of use their patients as methods to deal with their own personal garbage. I had one who was like that, but again, she was so well-intentioned in so many other ways that it was hard to admit that. In the end, she referred me to the guy I am having qualms about now! I think she did the right thing for both of us, because I really didn't need to hear things like "I could crush you if I wanted to". (Not kidding) Hmmmmmm judges have to recuse themselves if there is a conflict, but therapists don't.
I really hope that your next experience is more positive. It probably will be, seeing as you are more savvy, several thousands of dollars later...
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